My sister cut out the engagement ring she wanted and taped it to her boyfriend’s steering wheel while he was at work. Talk about being forward about what you want! However, her and her beau had been talking marriage a few weeks into their relationship, so he didn’t run away screaming from pressure when he saw the picture of a ring taped to his steering wheel. He bought her the engagement ring of her dreams, and proposed just a few months later (on Valentine’s Day – awww). In order to get the engagement ring you really want, sometimes you just have to be blunt about it.
I did the same thing to my guy, only by accident. We’d been dating for a week when he said he loved me, and 2 weeks in he was asking me how I would feel about having his last name. 2 years into our relationship we’re lovingly engaged, although he’s been unofficially proposing since the first month we met. One day a few months ago my best friend gave me a jewelry magazine, and I took it home and highlighted the rings I liked. He found the magazine on the table and hid it in his car so he and his daughter could go over the rings I’d highlighted, and they both oddly enough highlighted the ring I loved the most. I had no idea he’d found it, and knowing I’d be mortified he knew, he never let on.
Off to the jeweler we went, but I didn’t know that’s where we were headed. I thought we were going to Twin Falls to buy myself new work shoes, but he dragged me into the jeweler’s with me dragging my heels in embarrassment. I was completely caught off guard, embarrassed to be in a jewelry store, and had never tried on an expensive ring in my whole life. He picked various rings for me to try on, teasing me with rings I didn’t like but was trying on to appease him, and then told me to try on the one I loved from the magazine, on display in the window. Not knowing he knew that I liked it, I balked, saying it was too expensive and I didn’t want to, but he persisted, and on the ring went, and that was it. I fell in love with it.
We walked away that day, but needless to say somehow he remembered “the ring”‘ and it’s on my finger now. Ladies, to get the engagement ring you want, don’t be shy about letting your guy know exactly what you want. You’ve likely already talked about marriage, and if you have, start cutting out those pictures and giving your guy a clue on what you want. He’ll be grateful for the advice.
The only reason you shouldn’t shove ring ideas in your guy’s face is if you’ve never talked marriage and you don’t feel your relationship is serious enough yet. Otherwise, you know when you’ve hit that point of moving forward, and your guy will need a little help to pick out your perfect ring. Don’t be pushy about it- my guy didn’t propose officially until months after me trying on that stunning ring. The time will come, financially, emotionally. But if you want the engagement ring of your dreams, give your guy a very obvious clue.