A child throwing a tantrum in a public place is a common sight; your child throwing a tantrum in a public place, however, is a parental nightmare. Tantrums are emotional outbursts often accompanied by yelling, screaming, and crying. Other behaviors children may display include kicking, hitting, and when attempted to be carried, a sudden limp body. A tantrum can appear without any provoking, but often times a child throws a tantrum after hearing the word “no.” The following steps can help lessen the severity of and prevent future tantrums being thrown by your child.
Remaining calm while your child is throwing a tantrum is quite a feat, but a very important one. If a parent allows their temper or anger to overcome control, two tantrums will need to be addressed rather than one. If needed, a parent can utilize calming techniques such as breathing slowly and counting backwards.
Assess the Situation / Take Action
What are you doing and where are you at? Every tantrum cannot be treated exactly the same. When at a library, loud screaming will need to be handled differently than at an outdoor park. Assess your current situation and location to determine your next course of action. Try to determine what your child is capable of controlling in the moment. In any situation, an ultimatum needs to be issued to your child: stop this action or (insert disciplinary action suitable to situation) will happen. Such as “Stop screaming or we will not be able to visit the park.”
A parent needs to stand firm during a child’s tantrum. Let me repeat that, STAND FIRM! Once this tantrum is handled and over, standing firm is the best way to prevent a future outburst. If you give in to your child’s demands, it will teach them that throwing a tantrum works in achieving their goal. It doesn’t matter how minimal of a situation the current tantrum is being thrown over. Do not give in! If you allow your child that small toy in the check-out line this time after saying “no”, you child will expect the same results the next time. Yes, there will be a next time. If your child does not cooperate, the disciplinary action issued in the ultimatum also needs to be enforced.
Even in the best of situations with highly prepared parents, tantrums still happen. Tantrums can even occur after utilizing and maintaining the above steps. Overtired, overstressed children are more like to act out than well-rested children with little stress. Children’s worlds change rapidly without their control, and on occasion, these feelings explode out of their bodies. Unfortunately, these explosions tend to occur in public, crowded places. Developing consistency in parental actions will help prevent future tantrums and help to effectively and quickly deal with those that do occur.
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