If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, anxious or completely stressed out, you need a solution right now. Regardless of whether the root of your upset is external, (an actual upsetting event occurring in your life right now), internal, (stemming from having anxiety or depression) or a combination of both (which tends to feed off of each other), there are some things you can do right now to start feeling better. These solutions aren’t going to fix everything, but they can definitely fix enough to get you to a better starting place for dealing with the bigger issues.
The first thing you should do is to actually name your stress(es). You may think that you know what is causing you upset, but if you dig a bit further, you may be surprised to find several other catalysts that you hadn’t considered before. For instance, perhaps you are upset about having to care for an elderly parent, but you dig a bit further and discover that you are really missing having time for yourself or that you feel like you are neglecting your marriage. Identifying all of the stresses you are facing individually, instead of having them all masked under an umbrella of stress, can lift your burden considerably; because, in the time it takes to consider them, you can oftentimes see several solutions right away.
When you are really stressed and anxious, it is so hard to see things in manageable chunks because they tend to run together in our mind and create an impossible obstacle. When you take the time to just sit with a pencil and paper in hand and think about the way you spend your day and acknowledge the moments of your day that cause you the most stress, you have already taken a strong step forward.
Second, you need to choose items from your list one at a time and really focus on how you could improve this one thing. This is all about you. You don’t have to share this list with anyone or justify it anyway. For instance, if getting dressed in the morning is causing you a lot of stress, break it down further and ask yourself why? Is it that you don’t like to be cold in the morning when you get out of bed? Then take your shower at night and keep your clothes close by.
Is it because you don’t feel good about your appearance or your wardrobe? Then ask yourself, specifically, what one thing is causing you the most insecurity. Is it your hair, your clothes, your acne? Then make an appointment to get a hair cut or consultation, make a commitment to buy yourself one outfit that you love or make an appointment with a dermatologist. You get the idea. These are not frivolous expenditures if they are going to increase your confidence and in turn, the quality of your life. The benefits will be well worth your investment and you can take small steps forward on any budget.
Third, you need to make yourself a priority in your life. You need to make a commitment to keep working with your list and choosing one item to fix as often as you can, until you have more solutions accomplished then you would have thought possible. This really works. You start to see things differently. You start to see possibilities and improvement and it gives you a feeling of empowerment and helps to shift your mental attitude.