Because the dynamics between two people are unique, so then is the solution to the challenge of maintaining the sexual aspect of their relationship. Generally speaking, though, there are some basic rules of thumb that are certain to help in that endeavor. Surprisingly enough, these rules have very little to do with sex itself, but rather focus on the precursors upon which attraction and sexual appetite are based.
RULE 1: COMMUNICATE
Rarely is silence a positive element to a relationship. Since as a rule people cannot read each others’ minds, communication is therefore necessary in order for two people to be able to maintain a sense of closeness and intimacy, and to work out issues before they become issues. And don’t forget: communication isn’t always just verbal! One should make it a point to touch their mate in passing, steal a hug, and smile at them on a regular basis.
RULE 2: GET IN SHAPE
Sex is a most physical endeavor, so therefore the better shape a person is in the more stamina and creative options they will have. More than this, though, one’s physique plays an important role in how attractive one appears to their mate and in how attractive they feel towards their mate!
RULE 3: ACTIVELY PURSUE SELF-IMPROVEMENT
If one is not happy with themselves, it will cast a shadow on every other aspect of the relationship. One should therefore do things that will help them to improve, such as being proactive at guiding personal behaviors and evaluating how well one is living up to their own moral code. Engaging in frequent self-assessment will lead to self-improvement and greater personal happiness, which has a direct and positive impact on the relationship as a whole.
Focusing on the precursors to the sexual aspect of a relationship are of greater importance than what takes place in the bedroom. Because of the subconscious level at which human arousal and sexual desire happen, a lasting fire requires that two people work to keep themselves attractive to their mate in every aspect. Taking a proactive approach to maintaining the emotional health of the relationship and the physical and mental health of the individual will provide the perfect catalyst for a lasting and healthy sex life between two committed people, making the relationship a perpetually wound spring that’s always ready to be sprung.