What are the chances that you will be interested in every guy coming your way? Very slim. Most of us have been through the heart-breaking realization that the person you are gushing over doesn’t really have their sights set on you. When the tables are turned, you may be wondering if there is any easy way to get rid of them and put it to an end fast. If done this way, they won’t be as annihilated when you let them know you’re just not interested. It’d be cruel to raise false hopes for time longer than necessary.
Tell them you’re overbooked
You might feel overwhelmed with work or may be spending a lot of your time with something else. If you don’t think it would be a good time for you to think about relationships, let your pursuer know that. Let them know that you are focused and determined to flourish at what you are working for. Having any chances of distractions or nuisances destroying anything for you is just not an option. Of course, when you’re done telling them this, be sure to not let them believe that when you are less busy you are more likely to be ready for a relationship with them unless you are.
Talk about other people you’re interested in
This may be a little upsetting for them at first, but will most likely let them down the easiest. If you two talk a lot, sometime ask them for advice on approaching someone “you have your eyes on.” Of course, you don’t actually need to have your sight set on anyone, but it’s a good excuse. Also, they won’t feel as foolish as if you told them straight out you are not interested because they’ll be able to worry about their loss in private and not face-to-face.
This can be cruel, and is only advocated if there is no other way to let them off. When they said their millions of phone calls, texts, emails, and any other form of communication they happen to find, don’t respond. It’s not very polite, but they will most likely get the idea after a little while. If you value your friendship with this person, this is not the way to go because they may be embarrassed around you for acting that way after they’ve moved on.
Talk to a friend
If you know one of their friends, chances are they have already approached you to sledge some good qualities of their friends into your head. If they bring the subject up, let them know you’re not interested in their friend and they’ll let him/her know themselves. Don’t be too harsh in what you say, but by doing this it won’t be as humiliated for your pursuer because you didn’t say it to their face.
However you decide to go, try to let them off easy if it’s someone you value and to practice good manners. It’s not easy being told someone you think about a lot doesn’t really think about you in the same way.