Seeing the danger of emotional cheating is the first step toward overcoming and dealing with the problem that could ruin your relationship with your spouse or significant other. Once you notice traits and actions that could lure you into the temptation of emotional cheating, or worse, you must take swift action to put an end to the inappropriate emotional attachment you have formed. How can you prevent emotional cheating?
How to Pull Away from Temptation
If you feel an emotional and sexual attraction for your friend, the danger is that you will soon slide into a sexual relationship if you continue on your current course of action. That is why it is imperative that you see the danger and take quick action. Rationalising your feelings or actions will not help, as you are likely to try and justify your friendship or minimise your feelings for your friend. Start to pull away from the temptation being honest with yourself and admitting you have feelings for your friend.
Setting boundaries will help you to pull away from your friend and avoid the dangers of emotional cheating. Start by reducing the amount of personal contact you have with your friend. If you work together, is it really necessary to have lunch each day or take your breaks together? But if an important business meeting is coming up, make sure you meet in groups, so that you are not left alone with your friend. Reducing the amount of contact you have with your friend will actually help by lessening your emotional bond and the attraction you feel.
Refocus Your Attention
Emotional cheating can be devastating to a relationship and it can be the start of the end of a marriage. Turn your attention away from your friend and refocus that attention on your spouse. Stop sharing your worries and concerns with your friend and tell your spouse how you are feeling. Doing so can help to reignite the emotional bond between you. It is also important to stop thinking and fantasising about your friend.
Emotional cheating often starts off innocently enough. However, if nurtured, emotional cheating can devastate your current relationship. That is why it is important to nip it in the bud. Start by admitting to yourself how you feel and make a conscious effort to pull away from the temptation. Then set appropriate boundaries, such as limiting or cutting off contact with your friend, and then refocusing your attention on your spouse, rather than daydreaming about your friend.