Even in the technological world we live in, some children grow up believing they are supposed to reproduce before they are even out of high school. The importance of their life is to have children. It does not matter if the children are by the same father or even if there is a father figure in the house, the role of the female is to have children. How can you promote abstinence in your children?
The first thing you want to do to promote abstinence in your child is to believe in abstinence. If you are a single parent, bringing home a new boyfriend or a girlfriend every other night is a bad idea. You should show your child a stable relationship or at the very least keep your one night stands to yourself. Have them while your children are away.
If you want to promote abstinence in your child, you need to be conservative. Act like a “prude”. From the time your child is born, wear conservative clothing, the type of clothing that leaves things to the imagination. Dress your child in the conservative clothing as well. Your child will think it is the norm instead of wearing revealing clothing. When they get much older, they may change for a few years “to be like” their friends, but with your influence you will both get through these years unscathed.
Another way to promote abstinence is to talk honestly with your children about sex. Never give them more information than what they need. Always talk to them about sex on a level they will be able to understand. Sometimes children do things just because they are curious about it. If you can ease their curiosity, then they will not be as inclined to experiment. If you need help explaining sex to your children, go to your local health department.
Some areas of the United States are poor and the females think it is their “job” to have children. These children are the ones that need the most education on the opportunities available to them. If you can show your children what they can achieve, the whole world is open to them with opportunities. Help teach them about different types of jobs. Suggest to the teacher to have a career day, even if it is just for the teacher to talk about different types of jobs. If children know what opportunities exist, they may set goals to obtain them.
Remember that friends will play a big part in influencing your child. When your child is young it will be easy to monitor your child’s friendships. As your child gets older, you will have to work harder to “parent” your teen. Always keep a communication line open and ask about their friends, what they are doing, and where they are going. Try not to be critical when you are trying to correct your child’s attire. You do not want to make them feel ugly, unwanted, or unloved.
These tips will promote abstinence in your child. Try to remember your child is still an individual who will have their own thoughts and feelings on the matter.