Stress and financial problems seem to be affecting a majority of women both young and older. It is a known fact that millions of women worldwide suffer from a low or non-existent sex drive, and never experience orgasm at all. Many women are unhappy and frustrated with their hormonal changes.
Women are complicated creatures. A healthy sex drive depends on your age, your mental and physical health, hormonal health, emotional health, and marital health. If one or more of these factors is out of balance, your sex drive goes down or disappears entirely. So there is no magic wand to fix the problem.
In younger women a lack of sex drive may be caused from stress, fatigue and emotions. Raising a family in this economy is tough. Mothers work two jobs at times, then come home to chores, children, and demanding husbands. They have no energy for sex even if they have time and opportunity. PMS often turns emotions upside down as well.
In older women it is more mental and hormonal due to menopause and declining estrogen. Another hormone that declines with menopause is testosterone. Often this is the hormone that is really causing the sizzle to fizzle. Many menopausal women have been married for a few years and their relationship has become stagnant.
Sex is important for health to both of you. It helps you to live longer and healthier. It is good exercise. The enjoyment of sex is a good stress reliever and will help with insomnia problems. Most of all it is important to a healthy relationship. Even if you don’t really need it, giving it lovingly to your partner can reduce fights and irritation. A man who needs and wants sex becomes critical and distant. Men need sex to be healthy and it really does benefit women as well in many ways. Once you understand how important sex is, you will have more reason to rekindle your flame.
How to get sizzle back into the bedroom:
Renew Your View On Sex: Often there are emotional issues at play with all women. Try to see sex as a priority for your health and your partner. Realize it is good for both of you. Many women find they enjoy it once they get started. You need to just take time and do it. The more you make love, the more enjoyable it will be the next time. Men need direction. Tell him what you want him to do. Give voice to your real needs. Try being the one turn off the TV and turn on some closeness. When you begin making love again, it starts the hormones flowing again and creates desire. Initiate sex and make it a game like it was when you were young. Understand making the effort will improve your relationship and get it out of reverse. A healthy sex life leads to better communication with your partner. Realize your lines, wrinkles, and imperfections matter more to you than your mate. Women are very hard on themselves. Feeling sexy is created in your mind first. Start looking in the mirror with acceptance and self-love.
Get your hormones in order: Get a physical exam making sure you have your hormone and thyroid levels checked. You need to know if you are deficient in estrogen, testosterone, or thyroid. Testosterone deficiency is often the problem in low sex drive not low estrogen. Each one of these hormones in balance is important to your enjoyment of sex. Thyroid deficiency impacts hormones, physical health, mental health, immunity, and sexual drive. Your thyroid impacts every cell and function. Your physical exam will also identify any health problems that might be affecting your sex drive or ability to have sex. There is a reason if you are having pain or discomfort when making love. You need to know why, in order to fix it.
Get your health in order: If you are sick, fatigued, or depressed you will not want sex nor enjoy it. You need to get your health back to really enjoy making love again. Adrenal fatigue due to stress is one of the problems with a low sex drive. When you feel good and have more energy, you will feel more like making love. Pain is a real deterrent to feeling sexy. You do need to realize that sex stimulates the release of endorphins which help with pain and emotions. The act of making love may relieve pain and help emotions.
If you are a male reading this article trying to understand why your partner has no sex drive, this part of the article is important. If your wife is sick, you need to have patience and understanding. That will go a long way to make her more agreeable to make love. If you give her some tender, loving TLC you may evoke some interest again. You may have to be creative in the way you make love. You may need to experiment to find a position that does not cause pain. There are many ways to make love and not all of them demand penetration. You need to open your mind to finding a new ways to love each other physically.
Lower You’re Stress Level: Lowering your stress will increase sex drive. Activities that lower stress and get you in the mood include watching a romantic movie, reading a romantic book, read an article on sex, and enjoy candles and a warm bath or a glass of wine. Realize how important it is to leave the pain and difficulties of the day behind. Bringing your worries to bed does not help you sleep or help your sex drive?
Herbs and supplements that help boost sex drive: Two of these are Maca and Gotu Kola. You need to try and correct the base problems such as mind set and health issues first. Often, if you can remove the blockages from core issues like ill health and hormonal imbalance, you will find a renewed sexual drive. Then add herbs into the program for improved results. You will find herbal combinations in your health food store that have shown to help with sex drive. You need to check with your doctor first for herbs and prescription drugs do not mix well.
Is your marriage failing to thrive? If it is, your sexual relationship is probably suffering too. You need to sit down and be honest with your partner. Both of you need to express what you feel is wrong in your relationship. You need to really listen with an open mind and heart, letting go of blame and condemnation. You both need to own responsibility for what has gone wrong. Talk it out until you can come to some ideas on how to improve what is wrong. If you cannot do it by yourselves, get marital counseling. In most marriages, there are things that need to be corrected on both sides. You need to see it and deal with it. Spend some quality time together. Get to know each other again. Make date nights to rebuild that lost closeness. Find common ground despite the differences. Write down the reasons you want to save your marriage and sexual relationship. It’s less traumatic to rebuild a relationship than to start over from scratch. Rekindle the reasons you got together in the beginning.