Maybe you have seen the movie “confessions of a shopaholic”, where the main character has to make difficult choices in things that she can’t help but do which is shopping. I will take this as an example on how to say no without feeling guilty or any afterthought. We all know that saying NO, is like closing the door or shutting someone who may have offered something or anything. Saying No does not mean you are a snub or not accommodating. NO means, halt or not going for it, while this will give you enrichment in the future by being able to accommodate some other important purchases later on. Just like shopping, you are encouraged to purchase when you see something, you may not want to say no, but if you think twice before you pay, there are times when you realized, “is it important at the moment?”, thus you say no.
Whatever it is that makes a person say No, it is always best to understand and know when to say “no” and what to say when the need arises. Knowing when to say “No” can bring you the level of confidence on determining what to say and what others can expect. Some people who try hard to make everyone happy, have the tendency of saying yes to everything they are asked to do. If you think you are always trying to be nice to everybody at your own expense then you may need to reflect on what’s really important.
Saying no can help you in saving a lot of things and resources you may have been saving for your future. Others may treat it as living in frugal ways or they may think you plan on living by yourself, don’t fret. Although there are many reasons too why we find it hard to say no, at times you will be asking yourself these questions: is it right that I did not say yes Or was I being rude in saying no? There are circumstances such as a person’s desire to help others, or the fear of hurting somebody else’s feelings that we get to doubt whether or not it is right to say no.
To get the hang of saying no, one must learn how to say it in a way that your side is heard and not done for an intention of brushing off someone but instead to let your side be understood. To be guilt free in saying no, it would be helpful to know what to say when the situation occurs. Below are some of the possible lines you can use, which is just the same as saying no. You can use these lines and you may want to start practicing so that you get use to it.
• I’m going to think about it and then I’ll get back to you.
• I love to go, but …
• Can we do it some other time? I really don’t think i’ll be able to commit..
• I’m sorry I can’t..
• I would love to help you, but I don’t think I am the right person to discuss this.
These lines can help you deal with people who may have the urge to get you to do what they like or what they request, however it always depends on you. If you feel like it will not hurt to say no, then say it. No one can make you feel less important just by saying no to them. Saying no is a prerogative, and other people should accept it. Its the same wit paying respect to others and knowing how to value theirs and your time.