Starting in October and running through November, December and finally the first of January, the latter part of the year is virtually non-stop holiday celebrations; from Halloween through New Year’s the holidays can be a time of fun, sharing and bonding like no other, so long as you play your cards right.
The thing about the holidays, whether they are strictly dress up fun, or sit down serious, is that it’s a time where people who are dating, especially in the early phases, either grow closer together, or start farther apart. But what’s great about it, is that you have some degree of control over how the whole things goes, which means you can sit around on your thumbs and let things happen as they may, or you can go on the offensive and make the holidays a time neither you, nor your girlfriend will ever forget.
For example, take Halloween. The options are virtually unlimited, but only some of them contribute to couples getting closer together. If you sit home and watch whatever crap the networks are spitting out, you aren’t going to have a lot of fun. Whereas if you take your girl to an all-night showing of the Rocky Horror Picture show, and bring all the stuff, the chances are much better that the two of you will have an experience you will both likely reminisce about for years to come.
The same can be said for Thanksgiving, a time usually reserved for family get-togethers. But it’s also an occasion that has come to serve as the venue for meeting the folks, either hers or yours. Either is likely to provide more bonding than were the two of you to go out to KFC for chicken, say, or to an all you can eat buffet downtown. The point is, you can go meet her parents, her siblings and maybe aunts and uncles, or you can let the opportunity pass. Your call.
And then there is Christmas. Is there ever a time that is more conducive to couples growing closer, or farther apart if things go badly? It’s doubtful, and that’s because Christmas (at least for those that celebrate it) is a time of deep emotion for most people. There is the gift giving and the traditions and the memories of Christmas days past. And it’s coming from both sides, yours and hers. If you want to score points with your girlfriend, don’t mess up Christmas. Get her something personal and sweet; something she’ll know took a lot of listening and paying attention on your part; something that will make her want to kiss you when she opens it. That’s all.
And then? Then, figure out the whole family thing well ahead of time; will you visit her family or yours or will you stay where you are. It really doesn’t matter because the thing that does, is that you create a moment where the two of you are really feeling it at some point on or around the 25th. Get her near the tree, with all the lights and Christmas carols and be joyful. Kiss her under the mistletoe, and sit close to her and hold her hand. Make it about being close, not about getting laid. Make it about showing her how you feel about her. Make it special.
And then, take her someplace get-out-of-town fun for New Years.
And if you do some or all of these things, imagine the fun you’ll both have, the excitement, and how deeply fulfilling the holidays will be. Again, your call.
But remember, do it one way and you could be looking at spending the near future alone, or do it the other way, and you could be looking a very good next few months, to say the least. Your call buddy.