Is someone verbally abusing you? Are you unsure on how to go about in handling the verbal abuse? If you answered “yes” take action to stop being a victim of verbal abuse. Verbal abuse can do so much damage to your overall life. Verbal abuse can lower your self-esteem, negatively impact how others see you and reduce the quality of effort you put forth in anything you do. The following are some tips on what you can do to stop being a victim of verbal abuse.
Cut relations with the person who is verbally abusive. I know it can be difficult if the person verbally abusing you is your child or spouse. In those cases you may want to consider following some of my other suggestions. However if it is a friend, doctor, boss or coworker think about if it is really worth having them in your life. In a job situation first try reporting the person who is verbally abusing you to a higher authority. See if that will stop the verbal abuse. If not considering finding a different job that has better work environment and kinder people to work with. If it is a community worker such as doctor, or store clerk just avoid them. Make a report and find someone else to do your business with. If it’s a friend dump them. There are plenty of fabulous people in this world and you don’t deserve having a friend who will verbally abuse you regardless of how long you have been friends.
Express how you feel. For anyone who is important and will always be a part of your life let them know how you feel. Express what you think, feel and want using “I” messages. For example, I think it’s not nice when cuss words are to use to communicate with me. I feel sad and angry when I am verbally abused. I want the verbal abuse to please stop. By using “I” messages you are letting that person know how you feel without attacking them. They will be more likely to listen to you and stop their verbal abuse.
Walk away. You don’t have to sit there and listen to the verbal abuse. Usually if the person is being verbally abusive they are acting out of anger. When someone is angry nothing gets resolved. So just walk away. Let them know that the conversation can continue when they are feeling calm.
Put on some earplugs. If you just can’t get away from the person put on some earplugs. You can let them know beforehand that you don’t feeling like talking when they are being verbally abusive. That way they will know why you are not responding. This is great if you have long hair because they won’t even see it. Then you wouldn’t be listening to all the crap they are dishing out. It’s a great way to protect yourself and at the same time appear to be listening.
Seek professional counseling. A third party professional is a good way to help stop the verbal abuse. You spouse or child may not listen to how you feel but they could change their behavior if the request is made from a professional counselor.
By using these tips you will be able to stop the verbal abuse. Remember to take care of you and don’t allow anyone to verbally abuse you.
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