As previously stated, I am writing a series on how make the forties the most happy and satisfying of a woman’s life. These articles are not meant to imply in the slightest that I’ve got this whole forty thing wrapped up, just what I have chosen to focus on, hoping to bring more joy and personal satisfaction in my life. In that process, I hope to give other women suggestions on how to make the forties fabulous, not frightful. Our girlfriends such an integral part of our life, bringing support, laughter and a warm place to land when things just don’t turn out right. Read on for suggestions on women can become the best friends they can be to others after turning forty.
Don’t Say Anything About A Girlfriend Behind Her Back You Wouldn’t Say To Her Face.
This is a golden rule that I have always tried to live by, but never more so than now that I have reached forty. I want to live my life as an authentic person who treats her friends with the respect I hope to get back. Some women are truly emotionally stuck in high school, and rip each other to pieces to others, yet smile sweetly when that person comes around. That is not the way to be a true and loyal girlfriend, never mind a kind and thoughtful human being. When those words eventually make their way to the light of day, and they always do, they can cause irreparable harm to the friendship. If you have an issue with a friend, speak to her directly. You may not always see eye to eye, and you may even hurt her feelings in the process, but you will be a far better friend by being honest and forthright instead of catty and two faced.
Make Your Friends A Priority No Matter How Busy You Are.
Women in their forties need their girlfriends to relax with, share thoughts and ideas with and to lean on during times of marital strife, child raising challenges and health issues. Make it a point to check in with your friends by email, text, Facebook or a quick phone call when long extended visits are not in the cards. Your friends will know what a treasure they are to you and the friendships will remain strong and connected well into your fifties and beyond.
Don’t Speak Negatively About Her Children To Her Or To Anyone Else.
Many women in their forties have children that are moving from childhood to the teenage years and then into adulthood. These years come with many challenges and many children make a variety of mistakes along the way. When your girlfriend leans on you for support, refrain from criticizing her children’s behavior. Try to be understanding and sympathetic and offer advice in a positive manner, rather than using negative words towards her children. It is the unwritten rule that mothers are free to criticize their children as much as they want, but don’t take kindly to anyone else saying the same things. Love your friends’ children as much as you love your friends and always speak kindly and compassionately about them. Your friends will appreciate your understanding and kindness and will surely return it when the situation is reversed and it is your child who messes up in a big way.
Don’t Let Jealousies And Insecurities Affect The Friendships.
If you have a large circle of friends, chances are you have some who are thinner, richer, smarter, prettier and so forth. Hopefully, by age forty, most women realize that they need to be comfortable in their own skin, appreciate their own many blessings and realize that the path to true contentment is not to envy others their blessings in life. It is normal to feel a twinge of jealousy here and there. To let those feelings of envy and resentment grow and fester can only negatively affect friendships. Be happy for your friends’ good fortune and successes and look inward to see what you can do to bring more joy and happiness into your own life.