As I stated in my first article in my series of women in their forties, I recently turned the big 4-0 and realized that there were many areas of my life that I wanted to work on to make this decade happier and more satisfying and fulfilling than the last. Although I consider myself a generally happy and good person, I look at life as a journey and hope to personally improve myself in every decade that passes. This piece will focus on improving the relationship between life mates when a woman reaches her forties. My husband and I have been married for fifteen years and I could literally count the arguments we have had during that time on both hands. We are a very happy couple, but I am complacent or naive enough to think that there are still not areas that could be improved upon. Hopefully this article will encourage myself and others to forge a happier and more fulfilling relationship with our life mates.
Accept Your Life Partner’s Less Than Wonderful Qualities And Stop Expecting Your Mate To Change.
This is not to say that any woman should stay in a relationship that is abusive, unhappy or doesn’t meet her basic needs. If all avenues have been pursued to make the relationship a happy and fulfilling one, and it simply isn’t going to happen, then it certainly may be time to leave the relationship. I am referring to the fact that he may chew with his mouth open, leave the toilet seat up, lay on the couch watching football all weekend or interrupt you when you are telling a story. If your life mate is basically a good and caring person, makes you laugh and always has your back, let the little things go. If you have been trying for years to make your mate modify the behavior that really isn’t a big deal, but just drives you crazy, work on letting those quirks and habits roll off your back instead of engaging in pointless arguments that lead nowhere. Your relationship with your mate will certainly be more peaceful, and your life partner will appreciate the lack of focus put on those things that were formally a bone of contention between you two.
Stop Making The Same Mistakes With Your Partner That You Did In Your Twenties And Thirties.
Take a long, hard look at any mistakes you made with your mate when you were younger and avoid them going forward. Make the wisdom you have gained in the past decades be your driving force towards creating a happier and more fulfilling relationship in your forties. Growth comes from recognizing past mistakes, learning from them and developing different patterns in the future.
Don’t Be Lazy In Your Relationship.
Make your relationship with your life partner a priority. When women reach their forties, chances are the clock is ticking towards when the children will be grown up and flying out of the nest. Friends you made during your marriage may be getting divorced, moving away or starting new chapters of their own lives that may or may not include you. At some point, you and your life partner will have far less distraction from each other and spend far more time together. Strengthen the relationship now, so that when it becomes just the two of you again, it is a welcome period, not one that is dreaded.
Rediscover The Intimate Area Of Your Relationship And Make The Most Of It.
Hormonal changes and body confidence often make the forties a very sexually fulfilling time for women. Add that with the fact that children are not as needy and dependent as they once were during this decade, and this sets the stage for a rediscovering of the intimate relationship between you both. Make intimacy a priority, enjoy it and happily accept the benefits it brings to the relationship. Your life partner will appreciate the time and attention you bring to this area and your relationship will be all the better for it.