I’d Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido by Joan Sewell is an interesting book about how sex affects the relationship between the author and her husband.
Sewell has a very, very low libido and sees little need for sex on a regular basis. In fact, she is repulsed by the very notion of regular sex. Her husband, Kip, has a more ravenous, testosterone-driven libido and would have sex five or six times a week, given the chance.
Sharing Sexual Differences Between Men and Women: Sewell Presents PhD Theories
Sewell’s book is part memoir, part research and nearly all funny. Though the actual situation Sewell finds herself in – trying to save a floundering marriage due to sexual differences – is not so funny, the manner in which she shares her problems is hilarious.
Because of her humor, Sewell manages to keep readers engaged while sharing theories from leading relationship therapists such as Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, and many, many others. Sewell skillfully weaves together personal anecdote and expert theory to keep the reader turning pages.
Praise, Criticisms of Joan Sewell’s Book
But even though Sewell’s work is funny, she at times comes off as narcissistic and a bit whiny. Critics have said that, instead of trying to find a solution to make her relationship work for both herself and her sex-deprived husband, Sewell only tries to find a solution for herself. One can see how Sewell’s story comes off that way, and perhaps the criticism is true.
But Sewell writes in the novel that her solution has worked for her own relationship. She does not guarantee that it will work for everyone. If she has found a solution that works for herself and for her husband, who are we as readers to judge her marriage and relationship with her husband?
In fact, Sewell does not write the book to solve all the marital problems of the world. She only writes to help women with low libidos understand that there are other women in the world just like them. Sewell writes for a sense of camaraderie, understanding and togetherness among fellow women, and in that regard, she certainly has succeeded.
Id Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido was published in 2007 by Crown Archetype. ISBN-13: 978-0767922678
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