In the past year, I have come across a philosophy in the singles’ world, that is very interesting. The idea is simply, “If you’re not married, you’re single.” People who believe in this philosophy do not place value on committed relationships between two people who are not married to each other, and truly believe it is not possible to cheat on a significant other if not married to that person. In other words, you can cheat on your husband or wife, but not your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Oh, really? Well, I beg to differ. If I am dating only one man because he told me he wanted us to date only each other exclusively, then that means we are both held accountable to each other by our word. No, there is nothing legally binding behind our verbal agreement, but it is still an agreement between us that we are committed to each other. What is “single” about that? We may not live together and we may not have a family together (and of course, there are unmarried couples who cohabitate and raise children together), but if we’ve committed to being together, then we’re single only on our tax returns, as far as I’m concerned.
Personally, I think the “not married so you’re single” mentality is embraced by those who advocate promiscuity. It gives an opportunity to justify sleeping around, such as, “There are no rings on my finger…why are you mad at me for sleeping with all of your friends?”
Sorry, I have no time for this foolishness….or for a partner who believes in this nonsense.