For the past year my fiancé and I have been trying to conceive. Unfortunately, we are still trying. It is beginning to feel very discouraging, almost to the point where part of me says “there’s no use, we should just give up.” I know that many others have been in the same situation, are in this situation now, and many more will be in the future. My advice is to not give up hope, because there are solutions, especially with all the technology and science that we have today.
Due to some unforeseen circumstances with work, I do not currently have medical coverage, which makes it difficult and expensive to seek professional help. However, there are things we have been doing to try to increase our chances. We have spent countless hours researching on the internet and reading as much as we could find about conceiving. We have also researched about ovulation and timing, and I have been monitoring my menstrual cycle, which is steady, always around 29 days long.
We have tried different things such as the “recommended” sex positions (missionary and doggy style), avoiding saliva near genital areas, we have used ovulation kits, eat healthy, I take vitamins every day, and we try to reduce and eliminate stress. We are young, both 21, and I have been pregnant before. I went into preterm labor at 5 months and lost the baby, which specialists told me I would from then on be high-risk in any future pregnancies.
Theoretically we should have no trouble conceiving, and it is very frustrating and heartbreaking. Every day feels like a struggle, and I want to assign the blame on myself, but I know that it won’t do any good. My fiancé and I decided that after we had been trying for a year, we would seek professional help. It could be a simple solution, but there could be something majorly wrong, and that is something that haunts me on a daily basis.
I think the biggest reason that I haven’t completely given up is because my fiancé is very supportive and tells me “it’ll happen.” He understands how I feel and is there to talk when I need to. I have also told several people, including my mom, that we have been trying. It helps me feel better to talk to people about it, and to hear their input or suggestions. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and there is a reason it hasn’t happened for me yet. I hope that other women out there in the same situation won’t give up hope either, because if it’s something they really want, it’ll happen.