Just about every woman has broken up with a boyfriend and, most of the time, they’re not happy about it. Breaking up with a boyfriend is upsetting and stressful and, often, heart-breaking. But, while some women simply move on, others decide they’re going to get their ex-boyfriend back and, surprisingly, quite a few of them succeed. If you’ve had a break up and are still in love with your ex-boyfriend, take heart. You can get him back. Just follow these quick tips and you’re well on your way.
Do You Really Love Him? – Before you even decide to try to get your ex-boyfriend back, you must be absolutely sure you’re still in love with him. If the only reason you want to get him back is to make your ego feel better or to ‘get back at him’, then don’t. You’re wasting your time, when you could be spending it finding someone else, and you’re also hurting your ex-boyfriend – which, if you ever did love him, you just shouldn’t do.
Figure Out Why You Broke Up – Even though a lot of relationships end with the guy saying “It’s not you, it’s me”, that’s never the case. There is always a reason why you broke up with your boyfriend and you’ll have to figure out what that reason was before you can even try to get him back. If it was something you did, or how you behaved, it’s much easier to solve that problem than if it’s something your boyfriend did. After all, you can change yourself, but you can’t change someone else. Ever.
Solve The Problem – If you can pinpoint a reason or reasons why you broke up and you had something to do with it, then start to solve the problem. If it’s something you said or did, the first thing you should do is call your ex-boyfriend and apologize. Even if he doesn’t want to speak to you, apologize anyway. He may be angry at first, but once he’s had time to think about it, your apology will mean something. But…..after you have apologized do not ask him to get back together with you. Simply apologize in a short telephone conversation, say good bye and hang up the phone. Believe me, when he’s had time to think about it, he will call you back.
Get On With Your Life – One of the worst things you can do if you want to get your ex-boyfriend back is to act needy and helpless. If you keep calling him or sending him e-mails begging him to come back to you, that will do nothing but push him screaming in the opposite direction.
Once you’ve spoken to him, get on with your life. Get a new haircut, make plans with friends, go on a mini vacation, look for a new job – do anything that’s going to stop you thinking about him and make your life better. You’ll usually find, when you stop obsessing about him, he’ll start obsessing about you. Particularly when you haven’t called him in a while.
Don’t Make Him Jealous – One of the dumbest things women do when they want to get an ex-boyfriend back is to try to make him jealous. It rarely works. Shoving yourself in front of him with another guy will only make him angry and prove to him you’ve moved on. Instead, just live your life and wait for him to contact you. He will.
When You See Him Act Like a Grown Up – If and when you do see each other, act like a grown up. Don’t be whiny, needy, obnoxious, rude or stupid. Act like the grown up you are. Be friendly to him, be nice, and smile. Act like you’re happy to see him but not so happy you’d drop everything in a second to be with him.
Be A Little Hard To Get – When your ex-boyfriend eventually asks you out again (and there’s a good chance he will, if you follow these tips), don’t act ‘grateful’. Be happy he’s asked you out and, yes, agree to go with him but…….not……..now. Make him wait a few days as, like anyone, men appreciate the things they have to work for and have to wait for. Besides, while he broke up with you, you’ve been off living your life and you can’t just drop everything for him, now he’s back.
Honestly, the secret to getting your ex-boyfriend back is quite easy. Apologize for any mistakes you made, be friendly and polite if you see him and, other than that, get on with your life. Men always find women who don’t act devastated when they’re dumped much more appealing than those who dissolve in a heap. And those are the women they usually come back to.