Like other 20-something women all over the world, my heart clutched a bit at this week’s announcement that Prince William, quite possibly the world’s most sought after eligible bachelor was engaged to Kate Middleton. Both Prince William and Middleton are 28 – but while the Prince has spent the last several years working in various positions of the British Navy, Middleton spent just 9 months working as an accessories buyer for the British chain Jigsaw, and … not much else.
It is fascinating to see the newspaper headlines blare proclamations about how “down to earth” Kate Middleton is – how she is “one of the people” – but most of “the people” have built their lives around more than waiting eight years for their significant other to propose. Yes, she says that she plays works at the family business… but her privileged existence (and a designer dressed one at that) is hardly reminiscent of anything that the rest of us experience. Of course the rest of us have goals and life plans that exist outside of who we plan to marry. Middleton is perfectly suited to marry Prince William – she has spent her entire adult life molding her life to suit his. You may have spent your early 20s building a career, but Middleton spent hers picking out fluffy feathered hats that would photograph well. Her entire identity is a sub-part of Prince William’s.
For her sake, I hope that the marriage works – because if it does not, aside from some sort of Royal divorce settlement and whatever children she will be sharing custody of, Middleton will be left with nothing. So, before you sigh enviously over how stylish Kate Middleton is – or how glamorous – remember, if you had her privileged existence, and spent all of your time picking out what to wear, so as to complement your significant other, you would be too. Her lack of interests outside of Prince William should serve her well though – because there is no doubt that their marriage will be “all about him.”