Children change things. Lots of things. I always laugh when people without children say that having kids would be “easy” or that they wouldn’t change anything “that much”. These people have NO idea what they are talking about!
Since I began having children only 3 short years ago, I still have a slight grasp on what my life was like before I had them. I have vague memories of this happy, calm person that enjoyed reading books, watching movies, taking long walks and travelling. Now, I am still happy, but the rest of those things have flown the coop! Having children changes things in ways that you cannot imagine. The five ways that my life has changed the most are:
1. I have not sat through an entire television show, let alone a movie in 3 years.
Between changing diapers, filling cups, assisting in trips to the potty, answering questions, and playing games there is simply not enough time left to sit down for thirty minutes or an hour. Even after the children go to bed I am running to their room to change a diaper, give a hug, fill a drink or pick up a fallen baby doll every 15-30 minutes.
2. My stomach is much stronger.
Things like partially chewed up food, vomit and exploding diapers no longer bother me. I can clean up any mess in record time, and my stomach will hardly turn anymore. Injuries make me cringe, but even blood doesn’t bother me too much anymore. Kids do some disgusting things, and it’s easier to just clean the mess than it is to get disgusted.
3. I have grown eyes in the back of my head and developed x-ray vision.
My ears have perked up. I can tell by the sounds around me what my children are doing. I hear them jumping on the bed from the other end of the house, opening drawers behind me and eating snacks in the pantry from outside. My children are convinced that I know everything they do, and that’s the way I like it.
4. Spontaneity is not so spontaneous anymore.
The days of grabbing my purse and running out the door are no more. Before we can leave the house we need to bring diapers and wipes and pull-ups and sippy cups and extra clothes and shoes and socks and my daughter wants a barrette in her hair and my son needs his diaper changed and they each want a toy or book to bring along and, and, and…. And that’s just to go to the store. For a day trip, there is SO much more!
5. I know what love is.
Before I have my children, I had no idea how strong unconditional love can be. I will do things for my children that I would never have dreamed of doing for anyone else. No matter what they do or say, they are forgiven. There is no better feeling in the world than walking in the door and hearing an excited child yell, “Mommy, you came back to me!”, or at the end of a long day to be called into your child’s bedroom just to hear them say, “Mommy, I love you.”