It is hard to leave a person that you have been with for a while. There may children involved, both families may be comfortable and familiar with the person, and you don’t want to start over with a stranger. Your lover may have good qualities that you once feel in love with, but throughout the relationship, the bad qualities began to outweigh the good qualities on a large scale. Your relationship may be to a point where you two argue every day and sometimes arguments may escalate. Your relationship may be to a point where you go to work early just to get away from them and you basically sleep in separate rooms. Here are just a few reasons to go ahead and throw in the tile.
It will only get worse
How many times have you broken up with a person and they told you they would change or it would get better? Better yet, what did they attempt to do to make this change? Did they go see a psychologist or join a help group? Chances are they stopped that particular behavior for a short period of time and resumed it as soon as they felt they were back into their comfort zone with you. After the second or third forgiveness that you gave your mate, they have already taken the basics of the behavior and added more to it just to see how much you would tolerate. For example, if your partner had jealously issues in the beginning where he/she would always want to argue and verbally insult you in private likely progressed to public insults and physical altercations.
It will affect the children
There are a lot of couples who feel that staying with each other for the children is the right thing to do regardless of what goes on in the relationship. This is far from the truth. While there may be a convenience factor in that theory, the emotional and psychological affects bickering parents have on their kids are immense. According to Heartly House, Inc., children who experience domestic disputes in the home are prone to act out violence or disruptive behavior in school and/or on other siblings. In addition to this, when those children grow up and enter into their adult relationships, a good percentage of them carry on what their parents did, so history repeats itself in a dreadful cycle.
You deserve to be happy
Although leaving a person you have been with for a long time is hard, you have the right to be happy with the person you are with. While it is hard to leave a person you have been familiar with for years, you also have to consider the familiarity of verbal abuse, mental abuse, physical abuse, stress, anxiety, depression or whatever your mate has caused on you on a continuous basis. If a person makes you feel less than what you are and do not nurture the good qualities and abilities that you have, eventually you’ll get to a point where you began to feel miserable about yourself. Your creativity and productivity level decreases, your positive thinking is reverted to negative thoughts, and how you react towards other people outside of your relationship such as family members and co-workers changes. Life is about the pursuit of happiness and doing constructive things that not only affect you, but those who are around you. Having someone that is a hinder to this process will make you unenthusiastic about life itself.