If someone happens to embrace the lewd dance called grinding (or “freak dancing”), he must acknowledge that there’s a time and place for doing it. So where should he go to where having his leading partner gyrate her apples on the swaying front side of him, bend over and doing so likewise is acceptable?
Here are places where that kind of “sexual bending” is and is not appropriate:
Where Grinding is Acceptable
Basically, a nightclub is the only place where bums gyrating in front of pelvises are warmly welcomed. In fact, grinding first became popular there years ago, long before schools first started banning it! A lot of nightclubs have age restrictions and minimal to no dress codes, making freak dancing a flagship dance.
An Adult Birthday Party
Parties that involve dancing that involve just adults who love dancing provocatively are grind-friendly. They are in secluded places or indoors, they don’t expose themselves to where little children are visible, and best of all, their guests are welcome to dance as they please.
Any Unsupervised Teen Party
The most dangerous place (I define a dangerous place as being a hotbed of underage drinking, recreational drug use, premarital sex, and other sins of society.) to grind against a girl is a party organized by teens, just for teens. And those teens share an enthusiasm of freestyle dancing that includes front-to-back dancing with little to no space. In some cases, organizers set those parties up in protest to school’s rules dictating how to dance. Typically, they have a more relaxed dress code and a freer mix of songs, including those that are perfect for twerking.
Where Grinding is Not Acceptable
A Children’s Birthday Party
Especially if it takes place at some veterans’ gathering hall, twerking is a big taboo. Children’s minds are like little sponges – they absorb everything they see and hear in this big world. And dancing provocatively in front of guests where the majority of them are 12 and under sets a bad example for them.
A Wedding Reception
Even in weddings where the only children are invited are the flower girls and ringbearer, booty-on-hip shaking is a no-no. Remember that children learn from what they see and hear, and grind dancing is something they don’t want to learn when they step onto the dance floor. It ruins the elegance and finery of a wedding reception, lavishly decorated with florals and other elegant embellishments. This is a banquet hall of some posh hotel, not an over-21 nightclub!
And Finally, the Flutin’ School Dance!
A school dance can suit a particular occasion – prom, homecoming, winter festival, spring fling, and if policy allows it, costume parties. But all school dances have something in common: no grinding. To keep that provocative social dance out of their venues – whether it’s a catering hall or a gymnasium – they take action. If students are considering dancing front-to-front with almost no space, they have to sign a contract that does not allow to do that! In some cases, they have to wear a wristband of sorts so that each time they freak, the staff member or chaperone has to cut it off and escort them out of the venue.
There’s a time and place for freak dancing, and some of the only places to dance in an immoral manner are for adults who can’t stand what people are doing to make dances family-friendly.