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I really love my boyfriend, but here’s the thing, he’s black and I’m white.Problem is my parents will freak out. I have been dating him for about a year and a half, we are now talking about getting married and having kids. My mom thinks that I am single and keep trying to set me up with “nice white Jewish boys”. It is not what I want,I can’t imagine my life with my boyfriend. I am ready for marriage, but only to him. What to do for a white Jewish chick and her black boy that she loves?
Dear Black Boy Lover,
You have a really Guess Who is Coming to Dinner kinda story,don’t you. Maybe you should invite your boyfriend to dinner then happen to have that movie on hand just so your parents get a little perspective. Okay..seriously, how exactly do you know your parents would freak? I ask this because there are times when parents actually are a-ok with interracial dating, but we assume they won’t be. For all you know your mama or daddy may have swirled it up at one time themselves. Maybe the bigger issue will be that he isn’t Jewish.
I say go to which ever parent you think would come around the quickest. That is the one you go to, make casual conversation with them about dating then when the time is write you swoop in with a have you ever dated anyone outside of your race question. Check the reactions and comments. It is time that they meet him, because it sounds like you have your mind made up, he is the one. So, stop going to those awful Jewish singles events and wrap this thing up.
If your parents do freak out, then let them freak out. It is your life, it’s time to woman up. While it may be hard at the beginning, once they see how happy this black guy makes you, maybe just maybe they will get over it. Hell, maybe you will end up doing Kwanzakahs and African American/Jewish seders, those are tons o’ fun.
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