My fiance is NOT the guy to ask if you look fat in something. Because he will tell you yes, you do. I’ve asked him numerous times my version of the question, which is “Does my ass look weird in this?” and I have received responses from wolf whistles, bum squeezes of approval, or “It makes your butt look flat/wide/puckered up” etc. If you don’t want a true, honest answer, then don’t ask your guy in the first place.
Men, ladies ask these stupid, repetitive questions because they want you to take a look at their bodies and go, “Damn woman, you’re hot!!!” So women can gloat in pampered attention in an outfit they know they look great in. On the other hand, super secure ladies will often not ask this question at all, they simply catwalk into the room and fill the whole space with their female confidence while you pick your chin up off the floor.
Men, should you be honest when women ask you if they look fat in something? That depends- if your lady has a real body issue, then yes, be honest, but in a nonchalant way. Instead of saying, “You look like a total cow!” say, “You know, honey, I like that black sweater too.” If your insecure honey proceeds to ask you if they look fat, tell them they look great in everything but if they aren’t comfortable in what they’re wearing, you’ll wait while they change. They want your encouragement rather than your honest opinion.
Now, if your confident female is asking you if she looks fat, she wants your honest answer. I only bug my fiance if I haven’t seen my derriere in a certain pair of jeans before, and I want his approval before we set out the door. Not because I need it, but because he can see my ass better than I can, and he likes my ass, so he wouldn’t lie to me about how my ass really looks. Some pants, I love but he says they make my ass too tight (he likes looser, “mom” style jeans on me), but I value his opinion anyhow, and have even refrained from wearing so many printed t-shirts which he hates because they make me look even more like I’m his daughter than I already do.
But if I’m going to ask if I look fat in something, I better be prepared (and unoffended) by his answer. I’ve been shocked when he hated an outfit I loved, and surprised when I hated something he couldn’t take his eyes off of while I was wearing it (like my floor-length red church dress that has no shape to it whatsoever- I want to burn it but he thinks it’s sexy- yeah, it would be, for a woman HIS age- ha ha). The point is, guys, if your lady is going to ask you if she looks fat in something, tread lightly, and ladies, if you’re going to ask, be prepared for honesty.