My husband and I had been married for a few years and we had decided that we were ready for a family. So, I made the decision to go off birth control, which I had been on for quite a while, and we waited for the three months that we were supposed to. Apparently, from the doctor’s perspective, for people to have a healthy pregnancy, they ask their patients to wait three months before trying. We both thought that was fine and waited those three long months.
The time flew by and after those three months were up, we began trying. We both had busy lives and schedules, but we managed to make time for that personal time together. We did not have much stress or anything like that in our lives, so we began to wonder after the first few months when nothing happened. At one point, I thought I may have been pregnant when that time of the month was late a week. Yes, I showed some signs of that time of the month, but nothing major. Then I had to tell my husband that I had officially started, which did not make a happy man, but we got through it.
We kept trying though and we made a point not to let it get to us and take over our lives. We had talked about not letting trying to have a baby take over everything in our lives. We both said that if it was God’s will for us to have a baby, then he would. We also had, on both sides of our families, the gene for multiple babies. We both said if we were blessed with twins or triplets, we would be happy with that. We also said we would be happy for a healthy baby, as long as there were not any problems with me. On my mother’s side of the family, there were many complications with having children but they all managed to have them.
I am an older woman: I was 35 when I went off birth control and we both began to worry when nothing happened. Our lives got busier but we still kept trying. I am nearing forty now and we both were set in our ways, but still missing something in out lives. It was just recently, as of this year, that I started having some problems and made the decision to get myself checked out. In the past few years, I did go to the doctors for something or another, but we were both afraid to find out if one of us was infertile. We just lived with it and hoped. I recently found out why I was having so much trouble getting pregnant and having other problems. I was diagnosed with Uterine Fibroids and as a result had an enlarged uterus. My doctor let me know what was going on and I realized that the problems that I have been having and some of the symptoms that I had suffered with were fibroids.
My doctor referred me to another specialist to get more information and also to talk about fertility issues. Suffice to say, my husband and I did not like that doctor. That doctor gave us news that no person wants to hear; that my only option was a hysterectomy. He said we could try the other options but most likely they would not work and the fibroids could return. My husband and I were furious with what he said and made an appointment to talk to my doctor so we could tell her how we feel and get an second opinion. At this point, I am not willing to take that as my only option. As of this article, I am waiting to see my doctor to see what will be happening in the future, but I do not feel that a hysterectomy is for me. I am a woman and I will fight for my body.