There are many times as a woman when I feel like buckling under the expectations that are given to me by others. A woman’s work really never does end. After getting home from work outside the house, there is cleaning, cooking, laundry, organizing bills, and taking care of others. It can be very difficult to manage all of these things and I know that sometimes, despite doing my best, I don’t get everything done the way it should be.
I often refer to a book called Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin for inspiration. When life seems to be dragging me down, this book gives me some guidance on how I should act and what I should be doing to make things better. Some of the advice in this book may seem very outdated. For instance, it can be very difficult to be a complete domestic goddess when you have to work 40 or more hours a week. The first copyright on the book was 1963 and at that time, the author maintained that women only worked if they wanted luxuries. She didn’t think that they should ever work outside of the home. These days this is simply not practical.
Some people may also think that other advice is outdated, things like greeting your husband when he comes home from work or making sure that you dress in a way that is feminine. These days women just want to be independent, but they have gotten so caught up that they forget how to appreciate a good man. The book highlights the one basic need a man has, which is to be appreciated. A woman’s most basic need is to be loved.
Many women will think that this book requires them to be demeaned in some way, but it really doesn’t. It may seem old-fashioned, but the tips in Fascinating Womanhood actually do work. One of the first steps in helping a relationship is for the woman to accept the man for who he is. This can be difficult, but if you follow the steps correctly, you will find that your man will change on his own terms when he is ready. You don’t have to nag him and start fights all the time. If you do the things in this book, you will find your man working just as hard as you are in the relationship. Both of you will feel rewarded and be happier than you’ve ever been.
I recommend Fascinating Womanhood to any woman who wants to build a strong relationship with her husband. It will teach you both how to respect your differences and how to get what you need from the relationship. A man doesn’t have to know that you are applying the principles in this book to your relationship. If you make him happy, rest assured, he will want to make you happy.