Sometimes, a person just needs to look at the rules (self-imposed or otherwise), and cover them up with something convenient.
Like always getting to work on time after lunch. Sure I eat near my office and it’s no problem to be on time, but fairly often I need to get out for an extra five or ten minutes. A quick walk down the road and and back doesn’t take a lot of time and improves my outlook for several hours. If need be, I make it up by staying that little bit later.
“Stay organized.” My -favorite- self-imposed rule. It worked well to set me (and my room) apart from my siblings. Now however I’m discovering the joy of letting it slack. There’s a pile of clothes on my chair that have needed folding for a week. Meanwhile my crafting corner is oozing like the Blob to destinations unknown. Every once in a while I beat it back (found almost $100 that way!) While I love the calm order of an organized room, I also love the feel of that dash of equilibrium.
I used to have a rule of Never Read Romance Novels. Then I read a few good ones and found out it’s more than sex and empty-headed hotties. I don’t read them often since they’re still full of fluff but I DO read them. The ones with humor and a real plot anyway.
I do admit that breaking rules can backfire. Certainly there are times I kick myself for not sticking to my ‘non-confrontational’ rule. That generally happens after the resulting butt-whupping from a failed argument. Still, by breaking that rule I’ve developed more inner confidence and stability. More often than not I can now argue my case and remain calm. Practice, practice, practice. I’m still trying to figure out how to choose my battles – but as long as there are some that actually get fought I think I’m doing all right.
The best rule I ever broke? Tough call. It could be going ahead and kissing that foreign guy while traveling (we still correspond as friends), it could be getting lost in a city (saw some great sights), or it could be any one of a dozen others. The summary could be Always Acting In Character. (AAC!) Acting a little bit differently can have a big and memorable impact.