I have been a Mom my entire adult life. I have been employed in many different fields but being a Mom is the only job that ever mattered. Being a parent is a gift and an honor. It is a position where you learn on the job and just when you think you have it figured out, you realize how wrong you really were.
Although 4 of my 5 children are adults, I still parent them. I still have much to learn about how to do it “right”. As I am always self-critical, making resolutions regarding my parenting is something that can only better my relationships with my children.
Here are my personal parenting resolutions that I would like to stick to.
1- Remember how old my “children” are.
Although sometimes they might act their shoe size instead of their age, I am going to remember that being young adults, there are certain tasks they should be responsible for themselves. Even though I might have the time, it doesn’t mean that I should do it for them.
2- Appreciate the chaos.
With 2 college-aged and 1 teenager under my roof, there isn’t much quiet time to be found. Some day they will have their own homes and busy lives and I will miss these chaotic times. I am learning to savor them because it does seem like yesterday that they were small.
3- Listen to the drama but don’t get sucked in.
Girls can be overly dramatic and it is great that they come to me for support. I need to learn how to listen without allowing their overdramatization of life to upset me. This becomes easier with practice.
4- Stay out of petty stuff.
Sisters will be sisters and this resolution is a necessary one for me. Instead of feeling like I am put in the middle of their “disagreements” I am going to bow out of listening to any complaints regarding “she did this” or anything along those lines. From now on, they need to go to the source.
5- Tell them more often how proud I am to be their Mom.
I don’t say it enough and I promise to say it more. I am proud of each one of my children. They are all unique individuals and when they are around, they fill my world with tons of laughter. They have made me cry and worry but overall, they have brought me so much joy. I don’t think that you ever get too old to hear your Mom tell you that they love you, so, my final resolution is to make sure that I tell them as often as I can.
Parenting changes as your “child” ages but you will always be their parent. The relationship changes and as a parent, you are always adjusting to be what you need to be for them and for yourself.