Welcome back! I appreciate your support in my battle against negativity and efforts to be more positive. Special thanks to those who have left me encouraging comments or promoted my work by sharing the link to this or one of the previous days’ articles. I hope you’re enjoying my journey to a more positive and optimistic life. If you missed Day 1, you can read all about it here and links to all the days in between can be found on my Associated Content profile.
Positive Inspiration for Today
“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV version of the Bible).
Focusing on Life versus Near Death
We were on an exit ramp when suddenly another driver who had already significantly passed the legal means to exit charged over the grass and cut in front of us. She was headed straight for our vehicle and was going at exactly the right speed to hit the driver side of our vehicle with great impact. Thanks to the grace of God and my husband’s fantastic reflexes he was able to swerve off the road and narrowly avoid the collision (by inches, if that). Adrenaline kicked in, my heart was pounding and my muscles were all quivering. We’ve had some close traffic calls this month but this was the closest. It all happened so fast that I think all I had time to do was pray a quick prayer for safety. That’s one answered prayer for which I am supremely thankful. Had he not seen her and reacted so quickly I just don’t see how he could have survived that crash.
At first I thought she must have had some kind of medical problem or something to cause her to both swerve and speed up like that but it soon became clear that wasn’t the case. I have to admit that I was really angry at the woman. It required a lot of prayer and repeated positive thinking practice over the next few minutes to release that anger as we ended up right behind her at a red light and she never even acknowledged that she did anything wrong. She definitely broke some laws (reckless driving, crossing traffic lines and barriers, speeding etc.). Had she seemed contrite at all it might have been a think it once let it go kind of thing. People make mistakes. I get that. This just seemed insane and completely unnecessary (the next exit brings you to almost the same place – you just turn right instead of left). Thoughts I battled included something like, “how does a person seemingly try to kill someone in one second and then drive on as if nothing happened, adjusting sunglasses and applying makeup and not even looking at your almost victims?”.
But God doesn’t command us to forgive only those who ask for it or deserve it. He forgives us entirely and we are to forgive others in the same way. Thankfully I was able to forgive her and focus on being thankful (granted, I had to do this repeatedly for a few minutes). I am so incredibly thankful for my beloved husband and the many blessings we share in this life. The blessing counting I’ve been doing all month definitely helped today.
I’m also really glad that if this had to happen, it happened now and not before I started this negativity diet. Before, I probably would have stewed and complained about it for a long time and ruined a perfectly good afternoon out with my husband. Because I was able to release my anger and move on in an optimistic manner we did have a great rest of our day together. I also realized that this whole process comes so much more easily to my husband than it does me. Naturally, I’m a definite high strung type A personality and he’s the laid back type B. He certainly seems to appreciate this newfound calmness and ability to bounce back to an optimistic mood more quickly. So that’s one more positive thing for which to be thankful. Not only am I happier, but my husband is too. This negativity diet is a marriage builder. We’re even having a special meal to celebrate our life together tonight. That is one more thing to add to my gratitude list. Life is good!
Thank you for joining me on my journey to reduce negativity and increase optimism. I wish you abundant joy, safety and positive thinking.