Welcome back! I appreciate your support in my battle against negativity and efforts to be more positive. Special thanks to those who have left me encouraging comments or promoted my work by sharing the link to this or one of the previous days’ articles. It’s time to share the lessons learned from days and three of my negativity diet. I hope you’re enjoying my journey to a more positive and optimistic life. If you missed Day 1, you can read all about it here.
Day three was Saturday and on the weekends my husband typically does all the driving, which works well for both of us. Even though he was driving and I tried to read a book, I still noticed several people driving erratically while talking on cell phones, texting and I suspect one was even playing a video game. Some of these people were travelling at speeds of 75 mph or more. In the past, this kind of thing tended to generate a lot of irritation and worry on my part (which is why I try to read books and not look around), especially when the other drivers’ behavior results in swerving and crossing over the lines dividing the lanes of traffic. The irritation still rose its ugly head, but I was able to squash it by praying for the other drivers and my husband and focusing on the fun we were about to have (we were on our way to the National Zoo).
On day three I received a letter with a hand written envelope. I was really excited to hear personal news from this dear person who I’ve known and loved for most of my life. Unfortunately, when I opened the letter it turned out not to have anything of a personal nature but instead contained a request for funds.
I must admit that it hurt my feelings and made me sad that the person didn’t take a few seconds to at least jot a note (and I’ve already called the person so this article won’t be a surprise). Thanks to this anti negative thoughts experiment and the Lord’s work in my heart however, these negative feelings lasted only for a few seconds. Then I reminded myself that this loved one is a great servant of God. The solicitation was for urgently needed funds for a Christian mission. This person is a more than full time ministry worker, has an additional side job, serves in other ministries, and has a family with small children. The person was probably just overwhelmed and out of time; it was probably just an oversight. Sure enough, the intention was there, but the deadline for needing the funds was looming and the person had a crazy busy schedule and was lucky just to even get the letters out at all.
Being in a more positive frame of mind enabled me to call the person and hear what was going on and take the most optimistic view of the situation. Also, I think that the extra telephone conversation strengthened our relationship. So, a situation that could have been divisive turned out to be a relationship builder. God is good!
On day four I was struck by a migraine headache so was unable to write up day three for you all (which is why days three and four are combined). I think this experiment is working because although the headache was intensely painful (this is a fact, which I don’t personally consider a negative thought, although it would be negative if I dwelled on it). I really feel sorry for anyone who’s been around me in the past when I’ve had one of these. The pain is so intense that sometimes in the past my attempts at being a good, kind, and fruit of the spirit living person were generally forgotten and the old sin nature reared its head in the form of grouchiness and sometimes self pity. Praise God for working in me as I was able to remain positive despite the pain. I’m also really thankful to my husband who was understanding about my need for quiet, darkness and extra rest despite this being a day where he usually received my undivided attention.
Relevant Bible Verse
“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” Proverbs 16:32
I hope you’ll join me tomorrow as I continue my pursuit of a positive, optimistic attitude and fight negativity. May God bless you!