Psychological rape can be defined as a person doing anything sexual in nature that the person was manipulated into doing even though they verbally or non-verbally said they did not want to at least once. Psychological rape is different from regular rape because it is not done by force, it is done by manipulation. This kind of rape is prominent in teenage relationships and especially in cultures where the treatment in relationships are not pure. Men can manipulate a woman to have sex with her and women can do the same. My experience was with a man who had manipulated me into having sex with him even though several times I had said no.
I was in high school and I had fallen in love with a very handsome boy that went to my school at the time. I liked him very much but I was very disinterested in anything sexual at the time. We began dating after a few months of me noticing him. While we were dating we had deep conversations about sex, he wanted to have sex with me but I told him no consistently. I do admit that I was at fault because I remember seducing him more than once unintentionally. One day, we went to his apartment when his parents were not home, he told me he had a surprise for me. When I saw the surprise, it was a room filled with candles and flowers. I asked him what it was for and he said that I had told him once, which I did, that I wanted my first time to be romantic. Again I told him, this time verbally and non-verbally, that I was not ready to have sex and that I wanted to wait till marriage. He looked so disappointed and I finally gave in because I did not want to loose him.
I know this might sound like I consented but since I had told him no several times and the fact that I told him no non-verbally shows that he raped me psychologically. To make matters worse, he would not talk to me after this unless I was his sex buddy. I quickly cut him off even though I still desired him tremendously after we had sex. Sex is not only physical but spiritual. My mind became inflamed with love for him even though he did not treat me well and this was because I had sexed him and he was not my husband.
Psychological rape happens to men also. There are some men who are not ready for sex but who their girlfriends lure into sex. This kind of rape is prominent especially among teens as it was with me. I am no longer involving myself in sexual relations outside of marriage because I do not want to be spiritually tied to any man except my husband, who will show himself as a holy and pure-hearted man. Be aware of this kind of rape, because it is real.