Sometimes when someone breaks up with someone it is a mistake. It can be a heat of the moment decision, or a quick decision that is not thought out. Avoid making a big mistake and ask yourself these questions before you end it.
Is it just because I’m mad?
A lot of times some one will break up with their partner when they are fighting. When you are arguing with your partner, you are not your true self. When people argue they are angry, and full of emotions. When someone is angry they tend to be irrational, they will say things they don’t really mean, and they will do thing’s they normally wouldn’t do. Emotions are a very strong thing, it can alter a persons perception on things. When people are angry with their partner they are only thinking of the bad things, instead of the good. This being said, it is not the best time to make the decision of breaking up with someone while you are arguing. After you are done arguing and you remember how much you care about that person you may regret breaking up with them, and it may be to late.
Can we work it out; if so, do I want to?
You need to ask yourself what the problems are in your relationship. You need to ask yourself if there are small problems that can be worked out, or if there are big problems that can’t be worked out. Take out a piece of paper and a pen, and write down all of the things that bother you. After you have done this, for each thing you wrote ask your self if you can work that problem out. You should also ask yourself if the majority of the problems can be worked out or not. You should also ask yourself if you have tried to work the problem out yet or not. If you have tried to work the problem out several times, and nothing has changed then there really is nothing else you can do. However if you haven’t tried working out the problem, why not try to? Next you need to ask your self if you want to give the effort to work out the problems in your relationship. If the answer is no, then that means you have became indifferent to the relationship it’s self, and you should end it.
Do I really want to be with out this person for good? Will I regret breaking up with them?
Many people think that after you break up with some one, you can become friends. In a fairy tale world, this is true, but not in the real world. If you plan on getting into another relationship with some one else eventually, chances are they won’t want you to be friends with your ex. Being friends with an ex is really only a boarder between getting into a new relationship. Being in contact with some one you were once intimate with, can mess with your emotions. All though it didn’t work out, chances are you still have some feelings for them. How do you think it will make you feel when they begin to talk about the new person they are seeing? How will it make you feel when they ask you for relationship advice? The two of you were in a relationship, instead of a friendship for a reason. There is a large difference between a friendship, and a relationship. All of this being said, it really is in both parties best interest to walk their separate ways. You need to decide if you ever want to kiss them, hold them, or spend time with them again. If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then chances are you are going to regret being breaking up with them.