Parents do not understand why their charming honest child suddenly begins to lie. Yet, most child psychologists will tell you that this is a normal stage in a child’s development. This leaves parents with a few questions. Why is this normal and why do find it necessary to begin lying in the first place?
Statistics say that children around the age of six years old will lie once every 90 minutes. Plus, psychologists state that as a child becomes older and begins to understand the difference between the truth and a lie, the better the child will become at lying. Once a child becomes a teenager his/her reasons for lying will begin to change. Approximately, 98% of teens will admit to lying to their parents.
Why do most 2 to 12 year old lie?
• To help avoid things they hate
• Escape punishment
• To keep someone from being angry at them
• Because they have an active imagination (example a child who likes to tell stories)
Why do most 12 years olds and older kids lie?
• To avoid punishment
• Wanting their friends to like them (peer pressure)
• Out of fear (fear of what parents or friends may think of them)
• Protecting someone
• Trying to be courteous (white lies, do wanting to tell truth when asked such questions as Do I look fat in this?)
How can you possible tell if your child is lying? Look for such sign as:
• Does your child repeat the question you ask?
• Watch his facial expression? Does it change after you ask him a certain question? Does he begin rubbing his nose or do his eyes appear bigger?
• Does the sound of his voice seem to change?
• Suddenly, he does he begin talking a lot?
What should you do if you notice that your child seems to be lying more than usual or is lying about something that important?
• Have an honest talk with him/her. Discuss your idea on values and morals.
• Ask open ended questions that require a real answer, not just yes and no responses.
• Thank him/her for telling you the truth once you finish the conversation.
• Always be respectful of your child, regardless of his/her age.
Yes, childhood is not an easy time. Yet, this doesn’t give your child permission to lie. Don’t allow your child to get away with too much lying. Call him out on it and find out what he thins lying is an okay act.