What makes a good relationship between couples? If you do not have a good relationship the relationship is doomed? Can you turn around a bad relationship, which was once good, and make it better again?
The first thing one must do when examining the relationship is to look at its strengths and weaknesses. If the weaknesses far out weight the strengths its time to get cracking and make it better so it does no go by the way side. If neither part of the couple is listening to the other perhaps its time to pack it away and move on.
However if both of the people in the relationship want to work on it, then there are things that can happen to make it easier. If the relationship was once good but has fallen by the wayside its time to back things up and re-start at the beginning. What is it that brought the couple together? Taking the time to talk about the relationship with blaming the other person is always a good place to start.
Skip the crappy statements that place blame on the other. It’s easy to blame the other person for the status of the relationship. Instead of saying ‘you ignore me all the time and I hate it’, try saying ‘I feel bad when we do not talk or see each other for weeks at a time’. See they essentially mean the same thing but the second example will open the door to a constructive conversation while the first example will do nothing except make the other person mad. I am guilty of saying crappy statements, which place blame. After I became aware of this I began changing the way I address topics, but every occasionally when I am angry I fall back onto this.
Once the couple is talking and communicating effectively then they can see if the relationship can progress. Then its time to get back to the roots of the relationship if its to survive, if the two of you enjoyed lots of one on one time in the early stages do it again. If you enjoyed the busy social schedules, get back to that and connect with the one you love.
However, one part of the couple should never demand something of the other or make the other person feel guilty about wanting the quiet or social life. People change on their own and it is wrong to try to mold the one you love into something they are not.
If the damage is too great and both are unyielding, its time to cut those ties that bind and move on to different relationships.