Do you want peace in your home? Family struggles can be avoided in many cases, if clear guidelines are in place. Sitting down with your children to create a set of family agreements can help regardless of the ages of the children. These agreements go both ways.
Parents are busy, children are busy. This can lead to tired individuals that struggle over every last detail. If standards are in place, everyone knows what to expect. When rules are established and clear boundaries set, no one can say, “I didn’t know.”
Restore peace with a set of standards that are clearly outlined for all to see. Fair rules and expectations can be drawn up together and then referred to when necessary. Consequences and punishments can be set in place at this time as well. Parenting is made slightly easier when logical disciplines are determined ahead of time.
At a short family meeting, compromise until the standards are something everyone agrees to work with. The initial list may need tweaking, so set up a time to meet a week from the initial pow wow to see how the new standards worked out.
Kids can have a one hour break after school before starting homework, or, homework must be completed before playing, depending upon your family.
Aside from homework, your family may need to set standards for the following areas;
Going to bed
Eating habits, (snacks or no snacks and where they are allowed to eat)
Answering home phone
Communication in the house
Car safety and rules
Sleepovers, dating and friend time
Rules in Rhyme
Young children may need easy reminders. Try to make simple rhymes or say the family standards in a sing song voice. This keeps learning the rules light and not always concentrated on the word, “No”
Sports-minded children can understand a rule book. Place all the family standards in a three-ring binder. Have each “player” in the family sign the rules like a contract. Explain, that just like in sports, if rules are broken, there is a penalty. Personally, I’ve gone so far as to call out “unnecessary roughness” or throw an imaginary penalty flag when standards are broken in my home.
Family meetings do not have to be a drag. Keep them short and sweet. Finish with a treat of some sort as an incentive to cheerfully participate,