Do you have someone you admire and want to be like, because they seem to have good self-esteem? It is good to emulate those who inspire you, but you cannot be them. You see everyone is an individual; every being incarnated on earth is unique. You can no more be someone else than someone else could be you.
There are billions of humans, all with our own individual set of preferences. We are all different, and unique. To try to be what others want us to be is a waste of our life. We simply must be ourselves, nothing less and nothing more.
Many a showman and politician (not much difference except one is paid more) can tell you the truth of the fact that you cannot make everyone happy at the same time. Humans are just too diverse of a crowd to be able to satisfy all of us at the same time with the same action. To try to make everyone happy is both a waste of time and a thankless task.
We lose our identity, our self, our soul, when we try to live our lives to make everyone happy. We will of course fail, as making everyone happy is not realistically possible. This failure will in turn lower our self-esteem, as we will view ourselves as failures. To change this view we must learn to be winners, to have a groove, to be whom we are, for what we are.
Your self-esteem is what you think of yourself, what you think you are worth. When other people belittle you because you did not do what they wanted the way they wanted you to is their problem, not yours. You must not take their criticism of you as truth, as it will only destroy your self-esteem and make your life miserable.
Your life is your life
The law of attraction is simply that we attract into our lives what we think about the most. Our predominant thinking is called our resonation. What we resonate is what comes into our lives. I hope that you can begin to see that by thinking you are a worthless failure will bring more of that into your life event if you really do not want any more of that crap.
We attract that which is consonant with our preferences, the stuff that we think about the most becomes our reality. If you think poorly of yourself, and have low self-esteem. Then you will receive more such stuff that will act as evidence that you are correct. Unless you really enjoy suffering from low self-esteem, you need to change the way you think, as well as the way you think about things.
This deliberate and outrageous statement is the truth behind your life and the way you live it. The Law of Attraction never misses, it is woven into the very fabric of the universe, it will operate regardless of whether or not you “believe” in it. The law of attraction is controlled by your thoughts, and you will get what you ask for, through your thinking.
Maybe you really do not want to be laughed at, well if you keep thinking about it, and worrying about it, then soon you will find yourself getting laughed at. This is where the law of attraction comes in.
Getting to the good stuff
Trying to control other people and trying to please everyone are ideas that will lead you to frustration. You must live your life, you are unique, you are the only you in the universe. If you take a shower does your neighbor smell better? The actions you take should be for you, do not allow others to try to control you. Learn to say no to demands from others that you feel are both unreasonable and un-courteous.
Think of what you want in your life, what do you want to do or be? Take a few moments, take a long walk in the park and talk with yourself, what would make you happy. Be careful here, as revenge does not make anyone happy, it just spreads the misery. Think of your life and how you want to live it, leaving other people out of the picture, you have permission to be selfish here.
Once you have determined what you want to do and be, keep this thought always in your mind. By always thinking of what you want to see happen you will attract it into your life. If you find yourself thinking of what you don’t want stop yourself, and change your thought into what you do want to see. If you are thinking of avoiding conflict, you will find a lot of conflict to avoid, if you are thinking of happiness and harmony you will find a lot of them and never have to worry about the conflict.
When you start to see the world changing to the way you like it you will see that your self-esteem will raise to new heights. You will see that you are in control of you, that you are living your life for your higher good. Those around you will soon stop being critical and you will make new friends to replace any of those you thought were friends but were just using you.
You can be and do whatever you will to
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