It should be simple to tell if another college student is interested in you. Of course, there are barriers that could prevent making the first move, such as shyness and fear of rejection.
However, if you suspect there is a chance for a relationship or just a friendly date, look for the signs. They’ll be there. All you need to do is read them correctly. For example:
1. The person with a secret crush will always finds reasons to talk to you. It will happen frequently, and at first all the meetings will seem casaul and coincidental. There will be encounters, including arriving for class in the morning, in hallways, during lunch, along a campus street, attending a game and at other times.
If you’re aware enough to see a pattern of such unexpected encounters, you’ll get the idea that this someone may have a crush on you. Then it’s your option to let it evolve or nip it in the bud.
2. The crush on you may be most evident when you sit down alone for lunch, and not-quite accidentally, there’s an empty seat next to you. The would-be friend coincidentally shows up suddenly and sits down with a smile and a cheery hello. Unless you scowl, get up and stomp away, you’re in for some conversation. However, if you offer a smiling face instead, that will lower the barrier for the next move, by one or both of you.
3. It could be the snacks and presents approach. Your hopeful new friend may use the mother bird routine, and frequently bring you goodies. It may look and sound casual, such as, “My mom just sent me this great double-chocolate cake, and I couldn’t possibly eat it all. Let’s go over to the campus coffee shop and enjoy it together.”
4. Your would-be pal tries the slow approach by getting you to join in a group activity. That way, the shy one figures you won’t suspect that’s intended to get your relationship started. You’ll hear, “A bunch of us are going into town tonight to check out that new dance club. Would you like to come along?”
5. Your iPhone buzzes frequently with messages from that shy person. You get tweets and twitters that are not quite love notes, but clearly intended to get your attention and make your acquaintance.
6. That shy person may hope to be useful to you in your studies. You get kindly offers to help with homework, writing and research. If you’re looking more for brain than looks, this could be worth a connection for you.
7. If you happen to be a more direct and aggressive person than that shy one knocking at your door, you could make the first move. You don’t have to spoil the mood by asking, “Hey, if you want to get started with me, don’t just creep around. Come right out and ask me for a date!”
That’s the right idea, but be a bit more gentle, such as, “There’s a concert at the Bijou next Saturday night. Would you like to go with me?”
Then, after all those obvious hints, if you decide it may lead to creating a campus acquaintance and/or love match, go for it!