Sex, and any subject mildly related to it, seems to be out in the open now more than ever.
In the past, conversations about intimacy, relationships and close encounters were limited by the shy and the overly offensive.
Today, nothing is considered too explicit, too kinky or too vulgar. Sexual exploration and experimentation are viewed as healthy and positive outlets for both men and women.
So in a society where anything goes, why is bisexuality still considered taboo?
If same sex marriage is considered yesterday’s news and homophobia is ancient history, why has nothing been said about the possibility that a human being can be sexually responsive to both sexes?
Is the subject truly controversial? Or is it simply too difficult to understand, so instead we choose to ignore it?
Our society has definitely embraced new ideas and theories of sexuality with the help of the media.
Programs like Will & Grace and Sex & the City have made it ok for men to be openly gay and women to be openly promiscuous without feeling guilt or shame.
In 1997, Kevin Smith’s romantic comedy Chasing Amy explored how a woman’s sexual identity was not always limited to who society perceived her to be. Despite frequent tendencies to date and sleep with women, (therefore earning the lesbian label,) the main character ended up falling for a man.
In October of 2007, the first season of MTV’s I Love Tila Tequila was launched, which brought to the table more than other reality series’ as both men and women competed to win the heart of a bisexual woman.
In the first season, Tila Tequila chose a man who ultimately broke her heart. Hence a second season, in which she chose a woman who denied her love as well.
If anything can be taken out of the context of a possibly rigged reality show, it’s this question: Can you honestly find true love as a bisexual person?
Perhaps if Tila had replaced the group of women with a group of men, maybe she would have bettered her chances of finding a solid companion.
Either way, love in itself comes down to a person on an individual level. But just how important is one’s sexual orientation when it comes to love and relationships?
Is bisexuality simply too complicated a label, or does it allow freedom that otherwise couldn’t be found in one gender?
Is there room for acceptance of a gray area in today’s society of black and white?
Or is bisexuality simply a term or cover for those who want more interesting and fulfilling intimacy?
As mentioned previously, Tila Tequila was turned down by a woman in the last season of her show because the woman, despite flashing her sexual standpoint immensely, got cold feet when it came to the thought of actually being with a woman for the long haul.
In that sense, when it comes to women being bisexual, is it truly a matter of sexual orientation or experimentation?
If a woman has been attracted to men her entire life and then decides to date a woman, does that automatically make her a lesbian? Or is she just a straight girl who at this point in her life is looking for something different?
We all have seen in media and in life, the impact that two women kissing, or even flirting, can do to a man. It has been engraved in our society as a man’s #1 fantasy and fetish.
So when two women are getting frisky, especially when there’s a male audience and alcohol is involved (i.e.: Girls Gone Wild,) surely it isn’t considered bisexuality, but a simple urge and need for women to feel wanted.
That’s not to say, however, that women liking other women is obsolete. Two females can definitely maintain a stable, sexual and healthy relationship as well as any heterosexual couple.
But is it possible for a woman to consider herself bi and not a lesbian, and be taken seriously? Or does society simply feel that a woman being bisexual is just a phase?
In my humble opinion, I feel all human beings are programmed to be attracted to certain energies, which are present in all people regardless of gender. Bisexually then is merely a label to describe a universal quality that all people have, but often don’t admit to or act upon.
Feel free to share your thoughts.