I am a born again Christian and I see no reason at all why Christians cannot use this social network. As in anything that you do or use as a Christian, you need to make wise choices and always be sure to keep Christ at the center.
Recently, I read an article in the newspaper about a Pastor in New Jersey who is mandating his church leaders to get off of Facebook, or they will have to resign from their positions. The reason for this is that in the past year, a number of couples from his church have been having marital issues due to Facebook. People are meeting up with former boyfriends and girlfriends, actually going to meet them in public, and this is causing problems in their marriages.
I do not think that Facebook is the problem here. The issue that I see right here is that they are choosing to meet with this person, instead of just saying that they are married and it is probably not a good idea to get together. Someone may not have any evil intentions and may think that it may be innocent to meet up with an old flame. Then when they do meet, something triggers and suddenly they find themselves in an awkward situation.
With some people, the problem is in their heart. Marital affairs have been going on way before Facebook came into the picture. You can meet an old flame at the local grocery store. You do not need Facebook for that. You might as well get rid of your cell phone too then. I do not think that canceling your Facebook account is the answer. The answer is examining your heart and remembering the covenant that you made first with God, then your spouse.
On the other hand, the Bible does say to avoid temptation, so it may be wise not to accept friend requests from certain old flames. I have chosen to do that mainly because my former flames are now married. You just never know how an innocent conversation can spark something even if you have no intentions of breaking up a marriage. Just recently I ignored a request from an old boyfriend who is now married. I also came across someone else who I had contact with a number of years ago. I felt that if I sent him a friend request, things may spark up again and he is now married. If it is such a great temptation, then maybe it is not for everyone. Then, if that is the case, you have to really examine your heart. There needs to be self control even in this area.
So, Facebook is not really the culprit here. It is the poor and unwise decisions that people choose to make. I personally love this network and am glad that it has come about. I am meeting so many friends from high school, college and people that I have not seen for such a long time. It is a great way to reconnect and keep in touch with them. It can also be a great witnessing tool for Christ. The best way to communicate the message of God’s Love is on a social network where you have contact with so many. Facebook, if used properly, can be and should be a positive experience for everyone, including Christians. If you choose to have an account with Facebook, also make the choice that it is not going to ruin your marriage either because you will not allow it to.