If you are struggling in your relationship and you can sense that your boyfriend wants out, there is a chance that you may want to think about getting pregnant so that he will stay. While this may sound like an appealing idea to some, it is important to take a lot of factors into consideration before going through with it. Here are some things to think about before trapping your boyfriend by getting pregnant.
Pregnancy Will Not Fix Your Problems
Even if your boyfriend stays with you longer than he would have because you are pregnant, the problems that were affecting your relationship will still be there. Not only are you going to need to work through those problems for the relationship to work, you are going to need to deal with the stresses and challenges that come with being new parents. This can be a lot to take on and as much as you want it to, your relationship may not work out in the end.
Getting Pregnant Might Not Make Him Stay
While it may seem logical that your boyfriend will continue to be with you because you are pregnant, he might not. Even if he told you that he would remain in the relationship if you got pregnant, it is important to keep in mind that anyone is capable of a false promise. If the relationship was bad to begin with, there’s a chance that he might become too freaked out about being a father to determine what’s right in this scenario.
You Might Not Be Prepared For a Baby
Are you prepared to be a mother? Are you prepared to be a single mother? Finances are one thing to consider. Do you have enough money to raise a child – even on your own, as child support is not easy to get and might not be very much? Are you emotionally prepared to raise a baby, even without the help of your boyfriend if he is no longer in the picture? If the answers are “no,” then it is best to avoid getting pregnant.
While trapping your boyfriend into the relationship by getting pregnant may seem like a good idea, it is important to keep in mind that it never is. Not only are you likely to get hurt, but your boyfriend is likely to be angry that you trapped and your child may one day learn the reason he or she was conceived. The best thing that you can do is try working on your relationship problems and if your boyfriend still wants to leave, perhaps it was not meant to be and you will find someone who is better for you to raise a family with in the future.