Sometimes things in relationships fall apart or change. Your relationship is constantly evolving and changing as well. If you start to notice things between you and your partner seem a little off, you should definitely address the issue right away. Sometimes these things can be fixed with a simple adjustment and sometimes things won’t be fixable.
Emotional affairs are happening quite often in relationships and sometimes the other partner is unaware of what is really going on. If you ask people on the street about whether an emotional affair is cheating, you will get mixed responses. Some people believe it is absolutely cheating while others believe cheating is only a physical action. These signs are something you should keep an eye on if you think you or your partner could be having an emotional affair.
A Significant Amount Of Time Spent Thinking About Someone Other Than Your Partner
This is pretty much where it begins. You have to evaluate why you are thinking about this person and what exactly are your feelings behind these thoughts. Obviously if you are thinking about “so and so” from work and there is a deadline to meet or inspection coming up, these thoughts wouldn’t be cause for concern. If you are thinking about “so and so” and how they would feel about you doing this or that, this is when the concern should kick in. Being in complete control about your thoughts is something that is necessary in this type of dilemma.
Your Partner Is Spending A Lot Of Time With Someone Else
This is something you should take notice of. Of course if your partner is going out with friends on a routine basis, you shouldn’t be overly concerned (unless of course you are also worried about physical cheating). If you are noticing your partner spending more and more time getting coffee with “so and so” or just hanging out, you might want to step in and see what is really going on. If you ask to tag along and your partner gets upset, there may be something going on but if your partner allows you to come along, you will be able to see just how they interact with one another.
You Keep Telling Yourself “We Are Just Friends”
Just who exactly are you trying to convince by telling yourself this? You obviously know that you aren’t really “just friends” if you are trying to convince yourself you are through repetition. When you have to convince yourself of something that isn’t really true, that should be the biggest sign of all. You were probably telling people all along that you two were just friends and people bought it, but you cannot lie to yourself.
Your Partner Is Talking/Texting Someone More Than You
This one would be harder to spot if you weren’t with him/her all the time. If you do notice that your communication throughout the day is not “normal” anymore, you should ask why. Of course people get busy, but if communication patterns change, there is most definitely something out of the ordinary happening. If you live with your partner and suddenly they are constantly on a messenger talking to someone for hours, you might want to ask what is going on.
Keep in mind, there are plenty of other signs of an emotional affair, but these are the ones that should throw up an immediate red flag. Emotional affairs can be just as damaging as physically cheating. Whether it’s you or your partner who may be having an emotional affair, you need to end it or the relationship. Making that step won’t be easy, but it will be the best thing for you both in the long run.