Who has not had the displeasure of speaking to someone who identifies as gay, concerning gay issues? The sure arguments to avoid are religion, politics and in a 21st century addendum, it appears that gay made the list.
At times, talking with gays about gay issues can be as rough as fighting lions, tigers or bears. I would compare some conversations to that of an official who announced he or she has an open door policy, but when you enter the door, you discover the person has a closed mind. Of all the liberal ideas connected to the gay life, their agenda is akin to the very conservative my way or the highway approach of the religious right, which is not the will of God. He made people, not puppets.
This nation is moving into a time of acceptance of homosexuals to serve openly in our military. The battle for gay marriage looks like it too will be a part of a more progressive society. However, I suggest gays do some spring-cleaning before celebrating. Because of the immaturity of so-called leaders, who refuse to clean their closets of various unacceptable frontin attitudes there has been a delay in acceptance. What is at stake is a new generation of normal people, who feel anything but normal.
Gay activist would not have felt the need to adopt the term gay, in the 1960s as a statement of being proud or not ashamed if society back then did not view the lifestyle as degusting. Now this word carved into the brains of many has militant claws that will scratch your eyes out if you defy it. Without hesitation, I blame an ignorant, vocal and unwilling to accept change portion of American society for creating this very defensive, vocal and sometimes-arrogant gay agenda, which is currently standing in the way of further progress.
The word gay does not reflect the goal that activist then and homosexuals today seek, which is acceptance from society including the church. This word has also hurt many young homosexuals today who are trying to gain acceptance in a very different time where technology could care less about feelings. By having seasoned gay leaders of today cleaning their closets of 20th century struggles filled with hate and bitterness, a younger gay generation can thrive in the 21st century under the comfortable feeling of normal.
Any real leader should welcome young homosexuals selecting a new word that better describes who they are along the lines of normal. The negative connotation of the word gay prances around with such arrogance or flamboyance that it has sucked up all the pride and happy of too many parades.
The acronym LGBT is a step in the right direction but homosexual acceptance is a universal struggle. Besides, it can easily end up using half the letters in the alphabet to describe the many types of sexual beings we humans are, when the word normal would suffice. Just imagine the fact that there are many who cannot walk normal. I cannot see identifying them by their various mobility conditions, especially when you talk to them; they are very normal people.
I prefer neither gay nor homosexual to describe me. I reject gay because it has the feel of, arrogance and flamboyance wrapped in visqueen for protection. Until recently, I only chose homosexual to describe myself because somehow this nation of clicks insisted on knowing whom I went to bed with, even though sexually compatibly was out of the question. Now when someone asks if I am gay, I correct him or her and say, you mean a different kind of normal. Defining a person by their sexual orientation works well if you are in the porn industry; however, it shortchanges or denies our society of so much.
Many wonderful people who rightly do not feel their sexual orientation comes close to describing them as a person are reluctant to let their guard down. Despite immature labels meant to shame the reluctant, they accept with grace “Down low” or “In the Closet.” They would prefer you treat them as normal as you expect to be treated. However, that is not good enough for a busybody society whose dull lives are full of years spent denying someone else a life.
I use to believe that homosexuality was wrong in the sight of God. However, God revealed to me that something is wrong with society, not homosexuality in the true sad story of Oliver W. Sipple. Credited with saving the life of former President Gerald Ford while the two coincidently were in San Francisco in 1975, Sipple was a hero for only twenty-four hours. The news got back to his hometown and Baptist parents that Sipple, a homosexual, had saved the life of the president. The town immediately turned against him and made fun of him. His parents, who did not know of his sexuality, stopped speaking to him for years. This rejection was too much for this hero and he drank himself to death at age 47. The nation that thanked Sipple a veteran of Vietnam and former marine for defending America showed its real appreciation when this same man who happened to be homosexual, saved the life of our highest official.
To describe a person, as homosexual, heterosexual, straight or gay is as immature as a ten-year-old claiming someone has cooties. To me, these descriptions do not sound as if one is describing their sexual preference, it sounds as if one person is claiming to be better than the other is.
Gearing up for spring-cleaning after gaining more rights demands that we throw out things we do not need. If a person needs the word gay to best describe them, then so be it. However, who needs the words ignorance, arrogant or flamboyant in their closet? Toss them out! Okay you can only keep the letters n-o-r-m-a-l.