Giving your child up for adoption is a hard, often selfless decision. In many cases the birth-mom would like to care for their child, but is unable to. If the mother is too young, homeless, or unstable in someway, the best decision may be to provide the child with a better life than the one the birth-mother is able to give to them. I have never been through this, nor can I truly grasp the sadness and pain involved in the process, but I can offer ideas on how to honor and remember the child who was so much apart of you for 9 months and who you were able to bring into this world.
Below are some tattoo ideas for birth-moms:
1. Literary Tattoo.
Literary tattoos are any quote taken from poems or literature that hold meaning for you. For instance, my favorite poem is “I Carry Your Heart With Me,” written by E.E. Cummings. A beautiful line to your child is “I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart. I am never without it.” Although your child may not be physically present in your life each and every day, they are always on your mind and in your heart, and this quote is a perfect way to signify this. Other poets and authors may provide insight quotes as well.
2. A Footprint Inside a Heart.
Another sweet idea for a tattoo is to have a heart with a footprint inside it. The footprint could have the name of your child inside it. This tattoo would symbolize how the child has left footprints in your heart and has walked into your life and will forever hold a piece of you.
3. A Broken Heart.
Having a tattoo of a broken heart is a sad, but significant way of showing your love and loss for your child. A piece of your heart is missing without the presence of your child, but it is the only way for them to have a better life.
4. Your Child’s Footprint.
This is a wonderful way to remember the day your child was born. By getting the actual stamp of their foot (provided by the hospital), is the perfect way to remember their itty-bitty foot and the love you have for them.
5. Their Name.
Having your child’s name and birth date is a simple expression of their importance. Having it put in ink upon your skin proves that they may not always be with you, but that you are always thinking of them and will never, ever forget them.
A tattoo is a permanent expression of love and devotion. Choosing a better life for your child should not be something you have to hide or forget, but instead you should remember it and honor your child.
This article on Mother Tattoos may also be helpful when deciding how you would like to honor your child with ink.