At fifteen we all believe that we are some kind of invincible demi-god…that is until we get caught by our mothers, teachers, or the police. Looking back, there are ten things that I wished that I’d known when I was fifteen.
Here are the top 10 notions that I wish I had in my back pocket at fifteen:
1. Lunch Break does not extend into 6th period
At fifteen, education is important because our teachers and parents say so, not because we realize the invaluable advantages it will give us in the future. Rather than skipping out on the lame classes after lunch, remember that some day that education is going to land you a great job or spot in medical school.
2. Trends Come and Go Like the Friends That Are Following Them
Fashion becomes are very big issue come high school because the boys and girls are looking to associate themselves with the strange faces on campus. I remember in high school coming to school one day and at least half of the girls were donned in flannel button shirts. Nobody looked special and all of them looked boring. It is important to develop your own sense of style as you mature into a self that is unique to you and not the latest Abercrombie commercial.
3. Gossip ruins relationships
Everybody does it, but not everybody realizes the consequences of gossip. High school and the teenage years are prime grounds for the development of cattiness, gossip, and the loss of friends because many teens do not see the damage that gossip can do. Gossip is almost always untrue and even when it is true, it isn’t the business of the rest of the student body. Maintain relationships by staying trustworthy, tight-lipped and confident that friends and love interests will stay true to you if you stay true to them. Secrets are fun to keep.
4. Love can wait
Hormones are raging and there are plenty of places on campus to kiss that good-looking, funny guy/girl that you daydream about in history class. In high school, my focus was finding the man of my dreams(thanks romcoms of my generation) and living happily ever after, after the ensued drama and heartache that budded into a lasting relationship. What happens when teens jump into romantic relationships to soon? Babies. Unneeded Drama. STD’s…and much more. The advice is to wait until after high school to begin pursuing love interests.
5. My parents do love me
At fifteen, most of us are sure that our parents either hate us or they are from outer space because they do not understand anything that we are saying. About five years, we realize that our parents were the only ones that understood us and the only ones that weer there when we thought the world was crashing down onto our shoulders. The next time that you think that your parents have no idea what it is like being fifteen, sit down to ask them what it was like when they were fifteen. It is guaranteed that the teen-parent relationship will be strengthened and that gap that was thought to exists will come to an astonishing close.
6. Failure is healthy
Face it- everybody fails at something at least once in his/her life, so why not let it be during the high school years. High school gives every student the feeling of failure, whether it is on a test or losing a cross country race…failure is bound to happen. Failure at this age teaches young adults about good sportsmanship, confidence, and the self-esteem to move passed it and improve on those weaknesses.
7. The IN crowd isn’t necessarily the right crowd
At fifteen, we search for the friends that understand us as individuals. At the same time we search for the crowd that every person wants to be a part of. This can be conflicting if the crowd that would understand you prefers to go unnoticed by the remaining people. It is important to know that at fifteen we do soul searching and it is wise to remember that one can never mold their soul into something that it is not. Skip the IN crowd because in a few years, those people that did everything to be a part of the crowd will not know who they are or what true friends really are.
8. Eating numerous bags of chips will not keep me healthy
Classes in nutrition are lacking in the high school curriculum and this can turn perfectly healthy students into obese adults. Eating healthy, well-rounded meals is important to graceful aging, maximum performance, and staying smart throughout your life. Rather than eat from the vending machine or graze on potato chips, have your parents make you healthy salads or sandwiches. If somebody makes fun of you for eating healthy, just inform them that you would like to stay active and fit, not flabby and out of shape.
9. It Wont Happen to Me is stupid
I am a prime example of this phrase. I never thought that anything bad could happen to me, but then I got pregnant in high school and I thought that something like that could never happen to me. I am smart, well-educated, and come from a loving and supportive family, but still I was the victim of lack of common sense and rushing into love too quickly. The next time that you are about to go drinking and driving or have sex with your girlfriend, then remember that accidents happen every second of the day and fate may have you lined up for a mistake that could ruin your high school career.
10. Feeling different is everybody’s thoughts
Every fifteen year old feels like they are different from everybody else. Point blank- you’re not. Not yet at least.