Shopping for holiday gifts for boyfriends is a great deal more difficult than shopping for husband gifts. For one thing, husbands rarely breakup with you based on a poorly chosen present. After all, it’s cheaper just to give you the silent treatment and go buy the present they wanted in the first place than to pay a divorce attorney’s deposit.
And with boyfriends, well, let’s be honest: we’re still trying to impress them with our sophistication, thoughtfulness, and, more importantly, our good and available credit.
Further, there is often a great deal more of the unknown in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. For instance, how were you to know that he spent time with a juvenile offender counseling group after shoplifting that bottle of Polo at age 15? Good grief, it’s still a best-selling cologne and given with pure intentions!
Lastly, it’s sometimes difficult for a gift not to contain a presumption of continuity or a deepening of the commitment that isn’t shared by both parties. So skip the gift certificate to the tattoo parlor for him to have your name tattooed to his arm … or across his forehead.
Among many items, here are some in particular for you to avoid:
1. A Personal Self-Care Item
Guess what? Sometimes gifts carry meanings behind them that indicate that the recipient might require help in that particular area of their personal hygiene. Thus, giving your Man Candy a Sonicare rechargeable toothbrush might not be the highlight of his Christmas – even if you are a dental hygienist. You might want to consider toenail clippers and nose hair scissors in this same category, not to mention Sitz baths.
2. A Gift Card to Hooters
Yeah, I know you two are all secure and stuff in your relationship and don’t cotton to jealousy and such, but, uh, really? I mean, there isn’t another available big sports bar with big screen TVs and big beer pitchers and big spicy chicken wings to meet the guys and watch the big game?
3. A Silk Floral Flower Display for His Coffee Table
Your boyfriend’s coffee table is his, not yours, for the time being and is reserved usually for his feet. Attempting to decorate his home with feminine touches as a means of marking your territory as sad and pathetic as most silk flower arrangements.
4. A Sleeveless Sweater Vest
I have never ever known one single, available heterosexual man to purchase or wear one of these pieces of apparel without a partner residing full- or most-time in the same household. Your boyfriend knows this too.
This is not to say that such vests are unattractive at all. I am simply pointing out that wearing one indicates a status that he may not yet be willing to project into the world.
5. A Self-Improvement Book
Let the poor man enjoy his Christmas holidays, can’t you, without reminding him of his shortcomings, that awful childhood, those substance-abusing early 20’s, his inability to emotionally commit, or why he will die of a heart attack in 10 months without changing his diet immediately.
If this idea is even remotely a consideration, I suggest that you first read up on the following topics: empathy, passive-aggressiveness, and narcissism.