Everyone remembers those times when they were young and rambunctious, and fun had no price, except perhaps a grounding or two. Everyone also remembers how much they hated being grounded, or punished in any way. I remember how much I hated it, but, I also look back and thank my parents for keeping my in line, seeing how I turned out an adult with manners, respect, and class. Many of the young parents these days are making one huge mistake; they are being a friend to their kids rather than a parent. They look back at the overbearing strictness of their own parents and think to themselves, “I don’t want to be the strict parent mine was, so I’ll be laid back and let them learn lessons on their own.” This is a huge mistake. Children absolutely need structure. The lack of structure in today’s parents is becoming quite obvious in our society. Parents are getting lazy. They expect public schools and daycares to teach their children the vital lessons they need to know, when in all actuality, their kids are being starved of the structure they need.
Take a night out and go to a sit down restaurant. I guarantee that nine times out of ten, there will be a young couple with anywhere from two to four kids, all of them out of control, getting out of their seats, being loud and disruptive, fighting, etc. Sometimes granted, a child had ADHD or other medically excusable ailments that are uncontrollable, but a lot of times, the parents have simply forgotten or skipped the what used to be commonly taught etiquette. Its no wonder their children are entirely out of control. Its embarrassing, and stressful, and could easily be avoided with a few small changes at home.
Teenagers are utterly out of control in some instances. As an example, the clothes many teenage kids are allowed to wear are ridiculous, trashy, and not appropriate. Girls are wearing tight jeans, short shorts and skirts, tight, low-cut shirts, and sometimes hideously heavy makeup. The boys wear clothes that are far too big, pants without belts, allowing their underwear to hang out, and flashy hats that they don’t take off at appropriate times. Who buys the clothes for these boys and girls ages thirteen to seventeen? Obviously the kids don’t make the money to spend on these expensive trashy clothes.
The kids complain about “fitting in” and getting teased, and the parents give in and let them do whatever they want despite the fact that it may not follow their family values, as long as the kid “fits in.” I was one of those kids who came home crying from being teased by the terrible children in school, but my mother could not afford to buy me the clothes society “demanded” so she simply taught me to embrace what I had and ignore them. I wound up setting trends, and being accepted anyway, along with being a better person.
I am clearly just ranting my personal disappointments at this point, but their is an underlying point I’m trying to get across. These kids are the start of a lazy and dependent generation. Don’t get me wrong. There are is a great number of parents that are doing a wonderful job, they have children that are respectful and hard workers. I have faith in them. I just lack faith in how many of these parents are left. Kids that are being handed whatever they want, that aren’t being punished for their improper actions, that aren’t being taught manners are going to be the deficit of our society. They say the children are the future and this is correct whether we like it or not. As adults, these children are lazy, irresponsible, and they are going to be the ones that all of our taxes are paying for. They lack the manners to get or keep a job, and they spend their money on materialistic things that they don’t need. When kids are lazy, they do poorly in school, they don’t work, and they get into trouble. This “video game” generation is going to create a future mess that is impossible to clean up. Video games in some instances are proven to be helpful in child development, but when a child remains dependent on these games in adulthood and it affects their family life, this becomes a problem.
Long story short. Parents need to start building relationships of love, discipline, and rewards. Doing so will hopefully make their children individuals of class, individuals with a great work ethic. Even though it may be difficult, putting your foot down will not only make the child a successful, contributing adult, it will be a step towards bettering our future work force and minimizing another pain for future taxpayers to take care of. Chances are, if your reading this, you probably have an underlying feeling of agreement to an extent, and that you yourself are a contributing member of society. Your parents did something right, give them a call and thank them for the groundings and spankings that made you the respectful individual you are today.