The top things couples argue about are: Money, Work, Sex, Children and Housework
A study done by Smart Money magazine found that seventy percent of couples argue about money. There are many reasons for financial issues with the most common being one is a spender, while the other is a saver. The key to easing financial stress is communication.
Instead of having an argument about finances that adds to the stress, have a conversation. Explain things as you see them and be prepared for their point of view. When you both have said your point of view, make out a spending plan that both of you can live with. Then hold each other accountable to the spending plan. Work together as a team to become financially healthy.
Work can be a real issue for couples and families. How much time a couple is working and the shifts they work, affects their relationship. Work is unavoidable in life. Work can create an issue with home life.
Before arguing about something that can’t be changed, at least quickly, talk to your partner. Discuss your working hours, what they expect of you and most importantly, time you can devote to your partner and family time. Lastly, take on your share of responsibilities and get those done. When work and family balance, things can go along smoothly and the little stresses of life, seem more manageable.
Couples argue about their sex lives or lack of sex life. After a hectic day at the office, dealing with family things and preparing for tomorrow being intimate is usually the first thing to get cut.
Arguing about sex or how frequently to have sex, can leave a partner feeling they’re not doing their part. While the other person may not feel loved or cared about. Being intimate has different results for men and women. Some people need that deeper connection and affection, while others are completely satisfied with just cuddling.
Before arguing about your sex life, open the lines of communication and figure out what your partner needs. Keep your partners needs in mind and make an effort to make that special someone in your life, know they’re special. When needs are met, the relationships as a whole is better.
To have children or not have children can be a pivotal point in a relationship. If one person wants children and the other doesn’t, it can become stressful. Feelings of being cheated out of children or denying your partner what they want, can lead to arguments and ultimately someone giving in or the relationship ending.
Having children adds stresses to home life, finances, your work and other areas of your life. Children have needs and as parents making those compromises are a necessity. It’s easy for one partner to feel like they do everything for the children. If children are a part of your relationship, share the responsibilities. Enjoy your children. Never argue in front of your children. Talk about things like discipline and be firm on that together.
Couples argue about housework. Housework often leads to arguments when one person feels like they do it all, while the other just makes messes. While there are good reasons not to help out around the house. There’s no good reason for not helping out your partner. Doing house work won’t turn you into a neat freak but your partner will be a little more happy.
Communication is key to a happy relationship.