It is obvious that weddings can be stressful to plan and execute, but what some brides don’t realize is that there are plenty of simple ways to minimize these stresses with a little preparation and planning. Whether your budget is large or small, these principles can be easily implemented to make your life easier, and your wedding more enjoyable.
Put it in Writing.
Your busy picking out color schemes, choosing romantic music, and dreaming about your perfect dress, so taking the time to write down plans doesn’t seem like a lot of fun. But trust me, you need a master copy of what you want when your loved ones come asking what they can do to help. Turning down peoples ideas and opinions is easy for some and hard for others, and hurt feelings always makes everything worse. So do yourself a favor, and make a hard copy of all your plans, that way you can reference to it when you get in a tight spot with a well-meaning sibling or friend and everyone will be on the same page.
Be specific about who’s doing what.
Everyone wants to help, and everyone has ideas. That’s great, but before you know it, you’ll be drowning in advice and ideas from others. Don’t get me wrong, I fully advocate employing the help and expertise of your friends and family! But don’t let yourself create a mess just because you’re concerned about hurting someone’s feelings. If your mother-in-law (to be) has already helped you find a great cake decorator, then tell your cousin that you appreciate her referral but you’re all set. If you put your best friend in charge of decorating, don’t be afraid to turn down offers to do the same job. Don’t double up and things will go much better.
Have a wedding “coordinator”.
Anyone you know (a friend, a cousin, a sister) that has a take charge attitude and is known to be reliable and organized could make a perfect wedding coordinator for your big day. She can be in charge of as much or as little as you wish, but it’s a good idea to have someone calling the shots at least on the night of the rehearsal and the day of the wedding so your not getting bombarded with questions. Make sure you go over the order of things and all the little details with whoever you choose in advance, so she can direct people on what to do and answer their questions.
Don’t sweat the little things.
It’s easy to get carried away with details and make your wedding day stressful. In the end, if you take a deep breath, and let the small mishaps and the slightly imperfect little touches go and concentrate on the reason you’re all there (to get married!) you’ll find it a lot easier to enjoy your wedding day!