While some people take issue with this, there are quite a few that see no problem with dating more than one person at a time. This doesn’t mean that there is cheating involved because there is no exclusivity. The key to doing this, without coming off like a player or one of the many other unflattering labels, is open and honest communication. If you want to date more than one person, there are several ways to go about it without creating a mess.
Don’t talk about them to each other
Not only is talking about one to another rude but it can be hurtful especially if the person has feelings for you. It will also make you appear like you’re trying to make them jealous. Stick to discussing each others lives and anything else but the others you’re dating.
Don’t bring them around each other
If you’re going out with friends, only bring one person you’re dating if any at all. Don’t go to places with your date if you know that there’s a good chance someone else you’re dating is going to be there. It may seem complicated, but all it takes is a little forethought.
Be honest about your situation
There’s no reason to lie about dating other people if you aren’t dating anyone exclusively. Let each person know that you want to be honest and that you’re not dating only one person. They can make the decision about whether they are comfortable being in that situation.
Put off sex
Dating more than one person is one thing, but some people may take issue with the person they’re dating having sex with others. You may want to put off sex to avoid complicating matters. Whatever you choose, make sure to practice safe sex anyway.
Don’t date people that have a connection
Not only do you want to avoid dating people that are in the same family, but avoid those that work together, live together, are friends or have some other type of connection. It can create more problems then you need and may not put you in the best light. It will almost certainly also cause problems between the two people with the connection even long after you leave the picture. If you stay with one over the other, chances are it will create an uncomfortable atmosphere.
Don’t offer more information than necessary
While you should be honest with those you are dating, they are also not exclusive with you and don’t need to know certain details. For example, they need to know you’re dating other people but don’t need to know who, how many, or any details about them. Use your judgment on how much you want to tell them
Commit to one when you know the one
When you’re absolutely sure of the one you want to be with exclusively, don’t hesitate to let that person know. After doing so, you will also need to inform anyone else you’ve been dating that you can’t date them anymore. Make sure to let them know before they find out some other way, such as from updating your relationship status on a social networking site.
There are those that wonder what the point is of dating more than one person at a time. Some feel that it’s better to get to know several people at once before committing to one person. It’s a “not putting all your eggs in one basket” situation. Being honest and conscientious of everyone’s feelings can help avoid making the situation complicated and allow you to find one person you want to be committed to.