It seems the more we connect electronically, the more difficult it becomes to connect personally, or in some cases intimately. When you combine that with the lower rates of marriage and the higher incidence of sexual promiscuity, you get a lot of people who are not in a relationship, many of which, are women.
The hopelessly single woman has become a catch-phrase; an Annie Hall sort of term for woman who are either too difficult to get along with, too hip, or feeling their feminist power; too weird, or crazy, or just plain too ugly to be able to attract a man.
The thing is though, like most stereotypes, the reality of the hopelessly single woman is that not only are the stereotypes wrong, but they’re not even based in the real world. This is why most advice directed at single women who wish to be otherwise, fall so flat; because they fail to address the real reasons that so many become hopelessly single.
The kind of tips hopelessly single women need are the kind that if followed, will actually help them find someone they might have a chance at having a relationship with.
Tips like asking their friends who have men in their lives if they might seek the counsel of those men. This is the kind of thing that would actually help. Say a single woman who has trouble meeting guys who doesn’t know what to say or do to get the ones she does meet to respond to her, or want her, is given an appointment with a man she’s never met and who she will likely never see again. An appointment where the man tells a third party afterward why he would not be attracted to the girl, or wouldn’t ask her out, or all the rest. And then that valuable information is passed back to the single girl; this instead of a constant stream of advice from family or friends who don’t know or understand what the problem really is. That’s the kind of information a girl can use.
Another good tip might be that if you’re single and have been for awhile, and don’t see that changing, and have no idea why, then maybe you should consider doing something different. A lot of people might take such a tip to mean you should change something about yourself so that you will be more like someone else. And that is not the point at all. The point is, there really are truly very few women that are not attractive to someone. The problem constantly single women have, is finding that certain someone, or in demonstrating who they are when they do happen across someone that might fit the bill. So, the obvious solution is to abandon what you’ve been doing and try something completely different.
If you’re horribly shy for example, perhaps you could dress up and pretend you’re someone else, like in a play, and just play that part when you go out to some other part of town where people don’t know you. Or maybe you might take up a sport that is so not what you’d normally do, like boxing or pole-vaulting or jumping out of planes. Getting out of your comfort zone is likely to force you to behave differently around other people than you normally do, which might just lead to finding someone.
That’s the way you do it, by finding good tips and then doing something with that information.