Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as having a personality disturbance characterized by an exaggerated sense of self importance. Having a relationship with a person who has a narcissistic personality disorder can be devastating if you do not know how to recognize and cope with their behavior.
Beginning of the Relationship
Narcissists receive a thrill out of “chasing” their potential mate in the beginning of the relationship. They tend to be very cunning and have the ability to charm their way into your life. This ability to deceive makes them dangerous to become involved with because of the devastation they could eventually cause. Despite these wonderful feelings you may have in the beginning such as feeling special and important to them soon, it will all fade away.
After the Chase
The true person will show who they really are after the “chase” is over and they have won your affection. Instead of feeling special and appreciated you start to feel defective and have the constant need to better yourself in order to gain approval. Furthermore, dating someone who has a narcissistic personality disorder can also leave you feeling lonely and disconnected with society. The end results with these types of feelings are low self-esteem and worthlessness.
Signs within the Relationship
1. Does your partner or someone you are seeing criticize you harshly during an argument or when there is a difference of opinion?
2. Do you feel a constant need to measure up or meet your partner’s expectation because of their critical view of you?
3. Does your partner never seem to admit fault or recognize when they have done hurtful things?
4. Does it seem as though they are in love with you when you praise them but become manipulative, controlling, force you to feel guilt or even intimidate you if they feel criticized?
5. Is your partner jealous of other people when they have accomplished something that they themselves desire and it seems to consume them?
6. Do you feel you may be easily disposed of by the one you are involved with or dating?
Facts Concerning a Narcissistic Personality
1. The inability to feel emotion for others
2. The need for power over others
3. The constant craving for admiration or praise
4. Building an image that they are unable to feel humiliation, hurt or rejection
5. If criticized they become enraged or even feel devastation
6. The need to compete with others who have what they desire and are consumed by jealousy over the situation
7. The belief that they are entitled to special treatment concerning their needs and wants despite the feelings of other
8. Negative thoughts concerning the motives of others
Within current studies conducted by researchers narcissists have been found to have negative feelings concerning commitment and often turn to alternative relationships. This is a scary observation for those looking for a long term relationship with individuals who are involved with or dating a person who has narcissistic personality disorder.
Consider these facts before jumping into marriage
Allowing yourself to remain in this type of relationship can result in the possibility of marriage and according to professionals a spouse who is married to a person with this type of disorder often suffers from such things as, “introversion, anxiety, lack of social poise and self-assurance.” This is a bleak future to look forward to and a hard price to pay for a committed spouse.